ive fallen in love 2 well i guess 3 times. when i was very young we dated for about 5 years then he moved away and we lost touch. the second guy is my resent ex boy friend. which is now dating my best friend...and the third one is another one of my ex bfs .....he is younger than me. and hes a preachers child. he doesnt know i love him i cant go without thinking about him and when he talks about other girls i get so jealous.....and he knows i do.....its not a good thing but i think he does it on purpose so yea i dont get to see him that often but why do i always get hurt by the ones ive fallen in love with it makes no sense to me do i deserve all this? am i the kind of person people think they can walk all over?im about ready to give up....why was there ever a thing called love gosh
2007-02-01 11:14:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because you don't know what you want. You only know what you think you want....and that is not what you want.
2007-02-01 11:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about it, everyone feels like the world is against them from time to time. Just think about it this way, every relationship you had before made you who you are today, it taught you all that you know today.
Next time you would know not to make the same mistakes you made the other times. Now, you say you fall in love with the wrong guys, thats just it, they are the wrong guys. But you will find the right one, and then you`ll see that all those former relationships were meant to make you feel that way, just so you will be prepared for the real thing. Its all just a big "test" to get you ready for the real thing, else if you dont see the bad, how would you know what the good is?
2007-02-01 11:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there !!!
Sweetie you have to stop for a moment, take a brief pause. Now, sit down somewhere quiet, if you can put some relaxing music, relax and do not think for a while.
When you are relaxed stop and meditate on your present beliefs, what is your belief on love ? Do you respect yourself ? You see, we have to love ourselves first, before we can love another being. Do you love yourself? You should, we are all unique, and important to God.
We were created in his image. You can not go through life feeling bad about what happened, Ok many times we get hurt, that is called a life experience, learn , live and go on. do not dwell in the past, losing the present moment that is a gift, and is so precious.
Get to know yourself, go to different places, maybe places you have wanted to go and haven't yet.
Get involved in a hobby, try new things, meet new friends,
be happy to be alive, enjoy life to it's uttermost.
Do not think about one thing or another with love,
love is like a soft whisper, you can not see it, therefore, why look for it? It comes as a dream/
honey give yourself time to know what you want, who you are . When you least expect it, lightning strikes.
Love is to me a gift from above,
it is a life experience that makes us stronger,
Gives us wings to dream,
allows us to fly,
Love is wonderful, yet many times we have pre conceived ideas of what it should be, and we
miss out on blessings we have in front of us.
Look at the stars at night, enjoy the green of nature,
brethe deeply and feel how alive you are
life is but a moment, enjoy it honey. Be happy
Wishing you only the best
Love Light and Peace
2007-02-01 11:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really quite simple, now I'm not a psychologist or anything like that but if you've ever noticed people tend to date the same type of person that they first fell in love with. Essentially that's just what you're attracted to.
2007-02-01 11:34:10 · answer #4 · answered by 00silky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stay way from all three and move on. Trying to get back with an ex is useless. it may be fine for a while but in the end its never good. You say you've been in love before but I doubt that. Go out and find your real true love. good luck
2007-02-01 11:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by bubba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
many people think that they always think that love isnt ment for them this might be your case but i dont think so....i would let the right guy come to you and soon enough it will happen and you will never forget the moment. go to the mall or something with your friends in the meantime...maybe the real guy will "accidentaly" bump in to you.
i am a christian and believe in god. try just praying to god once every night and god will send you the perfect guy...tell him what you are looking for and say it nice.
dont give up he WILL come!
2007-02-01 11:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy Cas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You allow yourself to be a door mat. If every thought you've had about guys has been wrong, next time allow yourself to make your normal decision, then do the exact opposite.
2007-02-01 11:22:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lonnie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they initially seem to be the right guy, but turn out to be the wrong guy, try choosing a guy that initially seems to be wrong guy and maybe he'll turn out to be the right guy. Ack I think I just confused myself :(
2007-02-01 11:20:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you pick the wrong guy, simply becuz you date guys you know are A@#holes, and if you meet a nice guy, you would leave him for another A@#hole.
2007-02-01 11:19:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋