I really hate seeing questions like this on here, so I'm a little hesistant to ask. But I'm really stumped on this one. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months. The whole time we've been together, he has not trusted me. He thinks I'm going to cheat on him, and if I show up at his house late or if I'm talking on the phone, or if I'm on the internet (yahoo messenger) and he's not, he thinks I'm talking to guys. The only guys I talk to are him, and his brother...but his brother is gay, so there shouldn't be a problem there. I go over to his house every single day. Today will be the first day in about 6 months that I haven't seen him. But usually when I go over there, it's after 5:00 p.m. So he thinks I'm talking or seeing other guys before I go over there. I don't know what to do to make him trust me. My word to him doesn't make a difference. I've never cheated on anybody in my life, and I'm not going to start. How do I make him realize that?
2007-02-01 11:11:53 · 10 answers · asked by manders030405 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
has he been hurt in the past? my fiance never trusted me for about the first year and a half of our relationship...his privous gf of 2 years had cheated on him with his cousin for 4 months before he found out and she ended up dumping him for his cousin. it took him over a year to completely trust me he always accused me of hooking up with other guys, liking other guys etc. but i loved him and stayed with him hoping eventually he will see i would never do that...and he did. so i would stay with him if you really want this relationship to work keep showing him love and support and hopefully he will learn to trust you.
also i have seen situations where guys acting this way are actually doing the things they are accusing you of themselves. they think sense they are doing it you could be doing it too...so i would watch out of that as well
good luck!
2007-02-01 11:21:14 · answer #1 · answered by bob123456789 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sit down and talk to him and tell him "that u never cheat and u really dont plan on it".Aparently he doesn't trust u and a guy that doesnt trust u isent really the guy for u.U may love him but them type of people who constently think your cheating is not the type of people u wanna spend ur life with.For exsample my boyfriend never trust me arounf anyone at all I told him he needs to start trusting me more or we can't go on.The next day he totlly let me go anywhere in fact we went to a party and i chated with a few guys that were only my friends from school and he was cool with it .All u have to do is tell him it's driving u crazy and ur not going to keep putting up with it.Exsplain to him u come over almost everday and u spend time with him and there are no sighns of me cheating.I mean seriously i dont even spand that much time with my boy.GOOD LUCK
2007-02-01 11:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by stacy_diva_girl619 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has issues, it is not up to you to be his therapist and "fix" him.
I am sure your sick of it by now anyway.
Let him know that if he does not trust you that you do not want to be in that kind of relationship, tell him gently and that if he wants drama he can find another mama!
By the way, I had an ex who was like that, ended up he was cheating on me!
P.S. Don't feel like you have to be with him for any reason, other then you love, not care, but love him.
2007-02-01 11:18:45 · answer #3 · answered by Myra G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you tell him how you feel? Maybe he would understand and he doesn't, he is not worth it. Really, you are very important person in this world and the most important thing is that you feel happy. Follow your heart but remember to talk to him first.
2007-02-01 11:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to any place where no one can see you like at hiding point in any park. and make him realize the you the only one that i love the most.
2007-02-01 11:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give him a choice: Either you trust me or leave me... and find a bf that will trust you, if he doesn't trust you...
2007-02-01 11:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't do anything, its him who has a problem he needs help, take him to a therapist perhaps
2007-02-01 11:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by xfile 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him he is a control freak!!! You need better!
2007-02-01 11:16:10 · answer #8 · answered by m* 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
bascially all i can say is follow your heart... and whatever your heart says than thats what you have to do!!!
2007-02-01 11:14:51 · answer #9 · answered by Ashli E 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i guess he is not the right guy for u...
2007-02-01 11:15:35 · answer #10 · answered by Sagar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋