Here is what happened. My kids were at the playground having snowball fights with a bunch of other kids. One of my sons(We will call him Tony) threw a snowball and hit another kid in the face( We will call this kid James) the other kid laughed and threw a snowball in my sons face. My other son(We will call him Tom) was also laughing and threw a snowball at James and got him in the face. James quit laughing and said "Hell you don't" and punched Tom in the face and then ran off. We called the police and all the kids said the same thing about what happened. I am seriously thinking about Pressing Charges against this kid. He is 13 and about 6 feet tall. My son is 11 and 5'3 tall. I do not think that James should have hit him in the face. I think he should have had better control. He was throwing snowballs and getting other kids in the face. Would you Press Charges and hope you scare James enough so that he does not do this again? Or leave him alone and let him go unpunished!
2007-02-01 11:10:32 · 9 answers · asked by JJ 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I firmly believe that kids should not go around punching people in the face. Everyone was throwing snowballs in faces. It was not just my kids! You might stand by and let kids fight each other but I think a lesson should be taught before it gets worse. I would appreciate it if you would not attack my kids and just answer the question.
2007-02-01 11:28:44 · update #1
Well I went through a similiar situation with my daughter.She accidently ran into a girl in the bus line, and she apologized, But the girl turned around and punched my daughter in the face, blooding her nose.my daughter was 11 and the other girl was a year older.i waited for 3 or 4 days for the girl to be punished by the school, but they did nothing as usual.So I might have been wrong, but when they didnt act,I told my daughter to approach the girl and ask for an apology and if she didnt get one, and the girl acted as if she would hit her again, to hit the girl in the face back, which she did.I dont condone kids fighting, but i do teach my kids to defend themselves.
2007-02-03 08:25:01 · answer #1 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the child who is 13, is, well, a child still. Just because he is 6 ft tall, doesn't mean that he has the mental maturity to "have better control". He's still a kid and in fact as you said, your child, the one who was punched in the face, is only 2 years younger than the large boy. "James" is physically mature for his age, but his height doesn't suggest some sort of adult cognative abilitities, just as your child's shortness doesn't suggest any deficiency. They are all children, who were all throwing snowballs.
Instead of pressing charges, I would first talk with the parents of "James". Let them know what has happened. That way, they can explain to the boy that he needs to take into consideration his size, and that he should not go around punching people. If you just call the cops, that doesn't help the child really understand the scope of his actions, and it gives him a police record. "Scaring" him doesn't teach him. Talk to the parents first, then if you CANNOT reach an understanding with them, then seek police action.
Also, (and I'm not "attacking" your children here, I'm answering your question) you need to explain to your children their part in this incident. You need to explain to them that if they provoke people, or play ruff-n-tumble games, they can get hurt whether or not they (or you) feel the action is justified. It's no good realizing that one shouldn't provoke people after one gets hit, one should realize beforehand what behavior is provocative. In life, they cannot always expect other people to "be in control". They need to maintain conrol over their own behavior, and so by consequence they will have some control over the situation.
I'm not telling you how to parent. I'm just giving you my opinion and reasons.
2007-02-01 11:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by webstoragea1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what is wrong with you?? You called the popo's because a kid punched your son in the face after your kids kept throwing snowballs in james face.. and now you want to press charges? Your son is in what, 6th grade, soon he'll be getting into real fights and what are you gonna do? Call the cops ? Your son shouldnt of even been hitting this kid in the FACE with snowballs what if a rock was in the snowballs and your kids through it at this boy and it broke his teeth? You are in the wrong just like this boy was for punching your son.. they are boys.. loosen up and just forget about it or talk to his parents, but calling the popos and pressing charges on this young boy is really sad on your part...
2007-02-01 11:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by Julio 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would press charges. I have always been that way though, and made it through school with a small handful of friends, but no incidents. I don't put up with anyone's crap, and I will not put up with anyone giving my kids crap. Some people will say that it will just attract more attention to your boys, but in my experience it you are someone who means business and doesn't let anything like this slip by everyone involved will get the point. For the record I also think it is bull when people say that kids don't have control, or don't understand right from wrong. Once your child is walking and talking, and knows not to pull mommy's hair and to share their toys, they know the basics of right from wrong. Hope this helps...it is just my opinion based on my experiences.
2007-02-01 11:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by The mean Mum 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh good Lord!!! You called the police!!! Geez! They're just kids - this is how they learn! Maybe next time your sons will think twice about hitting another kid in the mouth with a snow ball or he'll learn to defend himself. Pressing charges? Are you kidding me? You need to slow your roll - what are you going to do when your kids get into a real fight? Demand the death penalty! Relax, kids will be kids.
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2007-02-01 11:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by Aunt Bee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is defenetly not right for this kid to do this, but is it right to press charges. Let it simmer sown for another day, and talk with this kid's parents
2007-02-01 11:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by Char 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i personaly dont think that you shuld press charges, i think that calling the police would freek him out a lot as it is, but then agan i dont know how bad he punched tom.
2007-02-01 15:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by Lala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to his parents
if he punched you, then call the police, otherwise it's just childhood bullying and what you described is not a serious enough case to get the police into it.
2007-02-01 11:19:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'd have charged him too... it's harsh, but he's gotta learn that he can't just go around punching people.
2007-02-01 11:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by Gig 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋