2007-02-01 10:58:11 · 33 answers · asked by S 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
no ... the quiet person is thinking ur dumb because thats all u had to talk about ...
2007-02-01 11:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a quiet person myself. Yes, It is very rude. The reason why we quiet people don't talk is because all the talker's don't ask us question's. They just keep talking and never ask us any question's. They don't want to find out anything about us. Its almost like they want to be a show off.
We can be outgoing more then you realize, its just that you won't let us. If you say that they will become very angry and frustrated with you and would rather not talk to you anymore. Instead of asking them that. Just start asking them question's that you would want people to ask you.
That's like asking a talkative person "Why are you so talkative" and won't let me talk?" Its very rude, and the same thing.
2007-02-01 15:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by jrealitytv 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer is yes and no.. Yes because they might want to be left alone or they are thinking of something and don't feel the need to communicate. You have to respect people when they are quite especially people you're meeting for the first time or you're getting to know them because some people don't warm up easily to others.
No because maybe, if you're known them for a while and all of a sudden they're quite, you might want to know why. But if it's a stranger, you might want to ask them about the weather or places they've been rather than asking an insensitive question "how come you don't talk"....
Hope this helps!
2007-02-02 01:57:55 · answer #3 · answered by liza246 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a quiet person and people ask me this question often. most instances I am thinking or observing. Some people are meant to do the talking and some are meant to do the listening. If someones not talking just leave them alone.
2007-02-01 11:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Sharisse F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so, There are more polite ways of wording the question and it depends upon your intent. If your intent is to help the person out, then I think it's not a bad idea to somehow try to get the shy/quiet person to open up. But I don't think you need to rub it in their face. They probably are painfully aware of their shyness. Just talk to them more, ask them questions, and you'll see they probably will be more talkative,,, if you're nice and non-threatening to them. You'll also feel better about yourself for helping someone else overcome their shyness
2007-02-01 12:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by hj55f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not even going to look at the other answers before I answer this. My answer is YES! I am quite by nature, Expecially when I first meet people. Now, let me tell you why. I take the first 30 minutes or so to soak them in. How they talk, what might offend them, etc. It annoyes me to no end to have someone say, 'why dont you ever talk' or 'wow Catt, dont talk so much'. Errr! Oh, another reason I might not talk around you is, plainly, I just dont like you. Or Im busy when you see me. So, yes, that is very rude.
2007-02-01 16:08:23 · answer #6 · answered by Bad Answer Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There might be a more effective way of drawing the person out. I'd just feel all the more self-conscious if someone pointed out my lack of desire to be paid attention to. You might comment on something the person is wearing or something to try to get the person to talk to you. Or just greet the person warmly when s/he comes in the room. The person will start to talk to you if you help create a comfortable atmosphere (probably).
2007-02-01 11:02:33 · answer #7 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that that would embarrass them more and make them more reserved. If I am quiet and thats my personality and people say "how come you dont talk?" its insulting to who I am. If a person is shy, then of course they dont talk. The best way to approach them is to not embarrass them with that question and just start talking to them about anything to make them feel comfortable.
2007-02-01 11:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by kimberley 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
YES, people ask me this all the time, and the only thing that comes out of this one-sided conversation is the fact that you just put the spot light on a person who doesn't won't it.
2007-02-01 11:52:05 · answer #9 · answered by singleman_dave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! but there's away to brake the ice,if your a guy and you want to converse with another guy,then bring up a sport or event that occurred recently,e.g.Hey! did you see the game Friday night(high school),how about that catch Michaels made,if the answer is no I didn't see the game,you justed broke the ice,take it from there,and if it's yes go team go.
2007-02-01 11:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from personal experience - i don't like to be asked that - i'm a little shy and get embarrassed if someones asks me that - also, on the other hand, if i know the people, i often just like to listen and observe - if i feel i can contribute to the conversation - i will, but normally i'm just quiet.
2007-02-01 11:04:46 · answer #11 · answered by tirebiter 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋