do acquaintenances...ask you how did it happen???? as if you would want to remember anyway???? you were NOT there??? i feel that is a VERY RUDE question to ask someone that is grieving??? (PLUS, WHY DON;T THEY THINK...oh, she had probably gone for counseling with her family and i should not EVER BRING IT UP???)
2007-02-01 10:55:57 · 9 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Yes. Some did out of genuine concern as a friend. The one that really took me aback was someone asking how she was and all I could say was "she's dead." I missed a week of work during this time while she was on life support. I know how you feel. If it helps I don't think people do it to be rude. They just don't know what to say or how to help.
2007-02-01 11:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are curious & don't think before they ask questions. Unfortunately not everyone has enough common sense to know that it may be painful to talk about a tragedy. If someone asks a question you don't feel comfortable answering just tell them . They don't mean to be rude they just don't think. I always try to put myself in the other persons place before I open my mouth .
2007-02-01 19:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sandi Beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kgj..I agree with all that you have ,said some people ,are just stupid, and they want you to think,they care when, all they want, is to stick, there nose, in others peoples business,,The best one is when people say I know just what your going through ..No they don't they do not have a clue this is stupidity,that is down right rude ...offer your condolences and be on your way .......luv kara
2007-02-01 22:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by COOKIE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people don't know what to say,so they ask questions that may seem inappropriate.When people grieve everything seems worse than it is, just state that you don't want to talk about it right now ,and leave it at that .Sorry for your loss.
2007-02-01 19:18:43 · answer #4 · answered by cinnamon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its the complete opposite. Most family members WANT to talk about it and it their friends don't know what to say. People shouldn't avoid the subject of dead loved ones. Greiving people like hearing their love ones names mentioned and stories told. They don't want to forget them.
2007-02-01 19:20:04 · answer #5 · answered by Rockford 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...maybe because they care...?
If it makes you uncomfortable, just tell them that you appreciate their concern but you don't want to talk about it. Most people will understand.
In some families, you just talk about stuff, get it out in the open, and it helps them deal. In other families, nobody talks about stuff like that.
But, again, if you just tell them that you don't feel like talking about it, most people will understand and let you be.
2007-02-01 19:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by ruadhdarragh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't know how to deal with other people's losses. They are usually just trying to be helpful. They are just ignorant.
Hope things are better for you soon.
2007-02-01 19:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember your sorrows i guess
2007-02-01 18:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by ARSENAL FC 4 LIFE!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, some care adn others are just pushy.
2007-02-01 19:31:55 · answer #9 · answered by L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋