what age should you get married at?

Question

my mom always told me you should never get married until your at least 35. But my mom is crazy I know people who were married around 17 and18

Answer 1

if your rich at 18 then get engaged and then married at 21 then a first kid at 25 then a second at 33 because they sound like even numbers , but then again I'm in my 40s and still single so what do i know!

Answer 2

You're Mom is trying to keep you from being 17/18 year old married, and wisely so.

You should get married when you're older, at least 22 but if you can hold out until 25 or so, that's reasonable. By that age you really do have a clearer view of your future and your life goals. Getting married before that point in your development risks not achieving those goals.

There's nothing really wrong with getting hitched so young, it's just WAY more likely to fail. People change a lot between 17 and 25, so it's wise to wait a while before making such a massive commitment.

Answer 3

This is a very hard thing to be absolute with, because age and maturity are two different things and people reach them differently as well. When I was younger, I had a plan, be married by 24, have two babies by 30 and so on...well I'm now 31 and with the best man ever but we are not married and no kids in the near future, maybe 2009. The thing is you can plan and plan but it is really up to you and when you think you have met the man of your dreams and you are ready to settle down and give your all to him and a family. I think 17, 18 is way too young, have your fun when you are young and when that is out of your system, it will feel right. Good luck.

Answer 4

I would say no earlier than age 21. Before then, you've not had enough time to live away from your parents to form a real world view. Your understanding of relationships in high school is shaped artificially by what your parents and other authority figures ALLOW you to have and do or what you have to sneak and do. Until you can have an open relationship where you AND your partner are able to make your own decisions and have the time to see the long term effects of those decisions, it's hard to be informed as to how you're going to react to things in a long term relationship.

There is also the problem of simple naive idealism. When I was 17 years old, I thought that all I needed was the love of a good woman to make a marriage work. The truths I learned after having a couple of real relationships where we both made decisions based on real world factors like money, mutual friends, ex-boy/girlfriends, differences in religion, differences in political ideal, differences in general parenting ideas (even though we didn't have kids, we could fight for hours about whether we thought spanking or slapping should be allowed) - the fact that these should even be considerations in deciding to get married, were beyond me because we were both basically living off our parents and still generally living with our parents' belief structures.

Once you're out of your parents' house, you get to decide for yourself if you believe in spanking based on your own experience and the benefit of time on your own to think about it.

I don't think you definitely need to wait until you're 35. I waited until I was 33 and to some degree, I wish I'd gotten married and had children a few years earlier since my ideals hadn't changed much since I was 25.

I think it comes down to having enough time to consider things as an individual and once you can do that, you might be ready for trying to learn to consider things as a couple.

Answer 5

You may think your mom is crazy but you would be surprised at how many of those 17 or 18 year olds that are in divorce court a year down the road. Do you know that the divorce rate now is over 50 %? I am 31 and I am planning my wedding now. I believe that if I would have married any earlier then this I would have missed out in so much in life. I hate to tell you this but your mom is right!

Answer 6

People who get married when they are 17 and 18 dont know any better. Your mom is right, people should at least be in their late 20's to 30's when they get married. People any younger than that arent mature enough for marriage and get married for lust instead of love. They also dont understand what marriage entails and how to make a marriage work.

Answer 7

Your mom is proubly telling you 35 because marriage is such a big commitment and alot of people jump into marriage when they are really not ready for it.

You should be atleast 18 but before you decide to get married I would atleast make sure your in a committed relationship for a minimum of 1 year or longer.

Marriage is NOT easy and it takes two people really working together to make it work. Before you decide to get married make sure this person is going to work with you and love you for the person that you are and grow with you as the person you want to become and can love you through the good times and the bad times. good luck

Answer 8

It depends on the person. Some may be ready at 17 or 18 but I think that is to young, they are just play house then. You need to be mature, sure you love the person and know this person through and through and also make sure you are responsible enough and want to take on the responsibility of a wife/husband and a family. Also make sure you have the finances to support a family.

Answer 9

25

Answer 10

You should get married when you are ready, and not a moment before. Some are ready at 18 some are never ready. Marriage is hard work and requires a great deal out of people.