I am 22 and my husband is 24 were have been married for 1yr. We just purchased our first home and move in to it at the end of may. We are both ready for a baby but i am scared that we should we wait. Should we plan or just act now how do you what is the smart thing to wait and save money get comfortable in your home or just do as our heart desires.I mean by the time we get pregnant and have the baby we will be setteled in our home but then what about money?
2007-02-01 10:34:01 · 15 answers · asked by Jessica 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
all i have to say is, even with the help and support with my family and my husbands family, there is never enough money, there is almost always something to buy. and i am not lettin' it stop me. i have a stable home, and a happy marriage. and soon to have two bebe's heh
2007-02-01 10:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by Kitterkat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are having these concerns then wait you are only 22 thats almost to young for a baby anyway why dont you enjoy your husband for a little bit longer first because trust me when baby is born there is no time for anyone or anything.
your husband may start resenting that.
also if you are waiting to save money first dont bother as you will never have enough lol babies cost so much you just have the baby and then you get by. anything to do with babies/children isnt planned lol but we love them.
goodluck with your choices but if i had mine over again i would have waited although my first child wasent planned i regret not being able to go out and do things with my husband and friends instead i was just stuck at home with my baby whom i love more then anything in the world mind you so dont get me wrong by the way my first was born when i was 22 so i cant judge but just do what makes you happy in your heart i am sure you will be a great mum weather you have a child now or in 5 years.there are pluses to having your baby at a young age though.
i now have 2 daughters and i am going on 24 my eldest is 19 months and my youngest is 7 months pheww what work lol but i love them good luck hope i helped a little if you ever want to chat my email addy is mandymoo1983@yahoo.com.au
2007-02-01 18:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by nomorebabieshaha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can tell you is if you are having doubts, wait. You are lucky. You are making a concious, intelligent choice to have a baby or not. Personally, it would be nice to wait 5 or 6 years into your marriage to have a family. Save some money, get your house paid off some, pay off all your extra bills like student loans and stuff.. cars.. ect. You will be SO MUCH futher ahead of everyone else.
2007-02-01 20:48:53 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to consider all the pro's and con's of having a baby right now. Financially is number one question... can you support your child right now? Do you want to stay home and take care of your child? Does your husband make enough to support both of you? Do you want to conitinue to work? If so do you make enough money to cover day care and what you would usually pay with your paycheck. Are you and your husband both wanting to have a child now? Are you ready to? Are you ready to put inthe time and effort? When you have a child alot of women neglect their husbands and problems begin to arise after your child. But I would consider all the pros and cons first. Sit down and talk about this before you think about trying. It will do you both good. If you are in agreement.. their are alot of sites you can go to, to help calculate your ovulation days. If you go to www.ovulation-calendar.com they have a free trial download that will do that for you. Goodluck and I hope you make the right choice for you now.
2007-02-01 18:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by sleepyincarolina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO MATTER HOW OLD YOU ARE HOW RICH YOU ARE OR HOW STABILIZED YOU ARE , ONE IS NEVER READY FOR A BABY . HAVING A BABY IS LIKE TAKING LIFE DAY BY DAY BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHATS GOING TO HAPPEN NEXT, SO JUST LIKE I TELL EVERYONE JUST LIVE YOUR LIFE AND WHAT EVER GOD PUTS IN YOUR WAY TAKE IT ROLL WITH THE PUNCHES. THAT'S REALLY ALL YOU CAN DO, I MEAN AND TRY CONCEIVING THAT'S ALL BUT ANYWAY S JUST HAVE FUN EVERY ONES TIME COMES AND YOURS WILL TOO MAYBE YEARS FROM NOW OR WHEN YOU GET YOUR NEW HOUSE OR EVEN TOMORROW JUST LIVE AND BREATH OK. HAVE FUN AND GOOD LUCK GIRLY! :)
2007-02-01 18:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by Veee Smitten 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give your marriage time to mature before bringing children into the mix... wait another 2-3 years. Spend that time building a strong foundation emotionally and financially for all of you too stand on...Good Luck
2007-02-01 18:45:00 · answer #6 · answered by hefnergang 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
do as you and your husbands heart desires. there will always be reservations but until you hold your newborn you will never quite understand the joy of parenthood. i say go for it. money is always an issue unless you are paris hilton so there is no point worrying. take it as it comes. and good luck.
2007-02-01 21:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by ricky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u guys can give it 1 year and then if u feel u still want a baby, go for it. u guys are off to a great start. why not enjoy eachother for 1 year or so. a child is here for life.
2007-02-01 18:43:18 · answer #8 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to what your heart desires. If everyone waited until they thought they had enough money no one would have children. Do what you want to do don't worry too much about money.
2007-02-01 20:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by bulldogfish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait until you dont feel any reservations. It wouldnt hurt to wait a year or two - it will just make you a more settled and prepared couple!
2007-02-01 18:39:17 · answer #10 · answered by rachie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋