Im turing 16 this year and i know this sounds crazy but i was thinking about having a baby. i know it sounds semi retarted, coming from a 16 year old but is that too soon for a kid, is it wrong? My boyfriend and i both are considering it but dont know if now is the best time.
2007-02-01 10:33:00 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I personally would say it is too young. Our society doesn't generally prepare 16 year olds for parenting, plus, you probably haven't lived much of your life. Wait until you are at least 18 (only as couple more years!), and then at least you won't have to deal with the scowls from people who don't understand. If you aren't ready to marry eachother, than don't have a baby. If you aren't ready to stop partying, or going to a movie every week with friends, don't have a baby. If you need to sleep at least 7 hours straight, don't have a baby. That is my advice... plus I don't think it is dumb for you to consider it.... biologically, the clock starts ticking for some of us early. I started to think about motherhood once I had graduated, so I was 17. I wanted to adopt though, so I couldn't start my family then.
2007-02-01 12:03:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put it this way... if you are not finished high school before you have a baby, you may never finish because you have to be home or go out and work to take care of the baby. This means that most places that pay more than minimum wage will not hire you, and even some of the places that only pay minimum wage may not. This means that you will either end up with a lot of jobs that do not make you happy, or where there are always "problems" and you get laid off or fired quite often for nothing. You will always be struggling to pay for things (especially things for the baby) which means tons of stress, and will feel bad that you can't give your baby everything he or she deserves. If you do finish high school first, that is better, but not by much. A lot of the same things will still be a problem, and you will still struggle more than if you had gotten a post-secondary education. Plus by the time you reach the age where you can legally go out and drink and have fun, you may end up resenting the baby because you don't have the freedom to go out all the time because you have to be home with your child. And although you both feel you want a baby now, what if your boyfriend changes his mind about being mature enough to handle a family in a couple years...? Then you will be doing all of this on your own as a single mommy. My advice is to finish school first, take a couple years to have fun, and then decide to have a baby. You'll be a much happier and well-adjusted mommy.
2007-02-01 10:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello. My name is krista. I had my daughter when I was eighteen.
I love her very much, and would never regret her...ever. But I do regret haveing her before I was ready. Children deserve a great start. It's hard enough for kids these days...with everything going on. Kids are so confused. Doing drugs, shoot'n up schools, cursing at teachers. And we, are prime examples. Babies wanting babies. Why? Finish high school. You have no idea how young your mind is at twenty...let alone sixteen. You just got responsibility over a car. See if you can handle that. Then see if you can get your diploma. And give that baby a mother with an education. Go to college. Its so hard. You don't know till you're there. Why give a baby a hard life? I struggled to get through school, and college. Now I feel so old...hehe. Be smart. educate yourself...then you have the brains to educate your child. Some people just have kid after kid and their kids do the same. They all work at Mc Donalds and struggle ...seriously struggle to buy milk at the end of the week. Give yourself a chance. Give your baby a momma with an education. If you need to talk about anything...write me.
2007-02-01 11:51:36 · answer #3 · answered by stewarts wife 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's probably best that you wait. I felt that way when I was 16 too and now that I think about it I am SSOOOOOO glad I waited and was very careful. I am 22 now and there are still things I want to do but I am having my baby in 3 weeks and I know I will have to wait a long time before I will be able to do what I want. You just want something to love and something to love you. I got a dog when I was 16 and got on birth control and that held me over from wanting a baby for a long time. The dog occupied alot of my time so I could only imagine how much a baby would have held me back.
2007-02-01 11:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by MyOpinionMatters 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer, don't you ? It's crazy and semi-retarded ! The best time is when both of you have finished high school, and when one of you have a job that can support three people ! Chances are you will have another boyfriend in two years or less. Maybe much sooner. Don't do something stupid that with change your life for the rest of your life ! And think of a baby who's parents have no job or education. It's a lose / lose situation anyway you look at it !
2007-02-01 10:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Vinegar Taster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To get a good answer to this you both need to go over the following questions together and answer them truthfully.
1.) How and when will you finish high school?
2.) After high school, do you plan on going to college?
3.) How will you support yourselves and the baby whether or not you are going to school?
4.) Are you willing to give up your social lives and devote yourself to the care of the baby 24-7?
5.) Will you be offering the baby a stable home life? - both parents living together in a safe and secure home.
6.) Do you have a good support system between your families that would be willing to help when needed? This doesn't mean you rely on them for financial support for the three of you. They would be there for emotional support and possibly an occasional babysitter for some alone and destress time for you two.
7.) Will someone be willing to take care of the baby while you are in school or are sick? Can you afford to pay for daycare services if a family memeber is not available.
If you have trouble answering any of these questions than rethink you decision to get pregnant right now. You are both young and more than enough time for babies later. You need to be sure that you will be able to provide for that baby, both emotionally and financially on your own. Good luck and I hope you make a good decision.
2007-02-01 10:47:11 · answer #6 · answered by unicorn18_98 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, 16 is 'too young for a baby' ... you are still a 'child' yourself! But it's for the BABY that you should wait, because the 'best time' for a woman to have a child is after the age of 23/24, when her body is stopped growing and her 'reproductive organs' are 'as grown up as they can get' without being 'too old' ... and although women have been having babies into their 60s, you really shouldn't have a baby much after your 35th birthday, and you should 'definitely stop thinking about it' if you already have at least one living child, by the time you turn 40.
2007-02-01 10:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Itz not the matter of bein too young or what not..it's more off "are you ready to settle down and have a child".I'm 18 and I had my son when I was 17. I was very depressed by i got used to the fact that i was carrying a child. My son is now 1 years old and life has been tough on me its hard to deal with school and have a baby at the same time..I'm still with the babys father and a baby doesnt keep a relationship 2gether...You dont get to enjoy your teen life I havnt gone out ever since my son was born.
2007-02-01 10:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
16 is too young, it'd be better to wait until you're 18 or 19. At age 16, you're (usually) in the middle of high school, stay in school, and depending what field of work you choose, you may need college. Sometimes it hard enough to get a job even with a college diploma, yet alone being tough to get a job with just h.s. diploma, unless you plan on making your living by working at a fast food place.
I've been on meds. almost all my life for seziures (epilepsy), unable to drive because of it.It also slows the muscles and down, effects reflexes & disqualifies me from driving. If you're able to further your education, do so. As a favor for those us who can't because of health reasons, you'll be doing us and yourself a favor,not to mention your loved ones & friends.Wait 4-5 years before having a baby,that's a big responsibilty,make sure you're ready for a responsibility like that and we're talking 18-19 years.
2007-02-01 11:25:07 · answer #9 · answered by kb9kbu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want to wait. I was 17 when I got preg for my oldest. Now I have three and I am only 22. It is very hard raising kids. You should wait and live life. I love my kids dearly but if I could do it over I would have waited so I could do all the things I want to do. Finish school and go to college and do whatever you want. When you have a baby it is very hard to do anything. I didn't graduate and I don't have a GED and now I have to wait to do anything until all my kids are in school. You have alot of time to make a family when you get older. Good luck. Be smart.
2007-02-01 10:53:52 · answer #10 · answered by vcheney84 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋