well i know the answer but i want ather ppls opinions. ok so my freinds boyfriend of 7 months has been cheating on her. he found out that i found out about it and he flipped. he tried explaining to me the reasons for his betrayal. he said his cheating has nothing to do with his true love for my friend, its just sex. he said he honestly loves her and she's the only women in his heart, but he needs to fulfill his sexual desires. he said that he doesnt love his mistress at all, its just sex. he then said that if i were a true friend to her i wouldnt tell her about it because it would crush her completely. and he is right because she totally loves him. but she's my friend. what do i do. and how could he say he loves her and then cheat on her?
2007-02-01 10:15:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her. Don't let him convince you otherwise. If you are truly her friend then you want what's best for her in life. A cheating man is obviously not one of those things. In addition to that there's a saying that goes "everything comes out in the wash". This means that eventually your friend will find out. With that she'll most likely find out that you knew. I'm sure she would be so hurt by the fact that you didn't tell her. That you let this guy cheat and make a fool of her.
Honestly yes, she will be crushed by the knowledge that her guy is cheating on her...but time heals all wounds and she'll be better off in the end. Besides you'll be there ot help her though it and to help her move on.
Sounds like her boyfriend doesn't appreciate or respect her at all. Good Luck.
2007-02-01 10:24:51 · answer #1 · answered by Love is Pain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheating isnt love. You need to have a talk with her and explain to her that you love her very much and dont want to see her hurt, but that you think she needs to take a close look at her bf cause he isnt being completely honest with her. Tell her to ask him whats going on. Dont be the one to tell her straight out unless you just feel you have to.
Make her understand that you are only doing this because you care about her. But be prepared for her to go into complete denial and accuse you of lieing. Just stand strong if she does, and tell her u would never lie to her.
This is a no win situation. If you dont tell her and she finds out and then finds out that you knew all along, she will be mad at you....and then you have that denial thingy that some go through because you are telling them something that is crushing them......Whatever the case.....I say tell her. Either way, she is gonna be hurt......But at least you were a friend and didnt let it happen behind her back. She will eventually see it if she does get upset about it.
She may believe you comletely and be fine with it.
Its just one of those toss up things.
Good luck to you.
You're a good friend if you do what you feel is right. And you already know what that is.
2007-02-01 18:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a true friend, it is pretty much your "duty" to tell her. If she finds out on her own, and then finds out that you knew about it, she will probably not want your friendship anymore either. Trust me, she won't be angry with you for letting her in on the truth and trying to save her further heartache. She may lash out at first, but that is usually just a natural reaction to the news. It is the brain going into "denial" mode. She will ultimately come back and thank you for it.
2007-02-01 18:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by JenJen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it. Your gonna come out loosing a friend. When you try to get between a relationship usually the person trying to help ends up loosing. She's going to be mad at you for telling her and if she doesn't get mad over that, her boyfriend will tell her your lying and then she will get mad at you for that. If she ends up staying with him your friendship will never be the same.
2007-02-01 18:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't love her because if he really did, he would be true to her and be committed to her regardless of his sexual desires (jerk!) Anyways, she will be crushed either way but don't you think it would be better coming from you than from someone else? If it were me, I would want my friends to tell me that my bf went astray.
2007-02-01 18:24:05 · answer #5 · answered by mauinei34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is only trying to play mind games on you. Don't listen to him. Unfortunately, your friend is going to be very upset but ultimately you will be doing her a big favor because she will know be fore she marries this guy what a jerk he is. Its going to suck but you need to tell your friend also tell her about him trying mind games on you.
2007-02-01 18:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You owe it to your friend to tell her. He does not love her. Wouldnt you want someone to tell you if you were in her place?
2007-02-01 18:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by budhagan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't love her, if he did he would have no need to have sex with anyone else... he actually probably wouldn't want to have sex with anyone else...
2007-02-01 18:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her...
He is not worth protecting..
2007-02-01 18:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋