No longer considered a nice person?

Question

Agree with me or not. A person is no longer considered a very nice person if he or she is psychologically, mentally abusive, controlling,
and insecure.

Answer 1

Agree, this is not a very nice person -- insecure is a key word here. Sounds like this person is overcompensating for their own lack of self-confidence. Akin to the school yard bully who has to hurt others to make themselves feel good, but once you smack talk them back in the face and make them turn away first, they run off like a baby. You know, some people literally never grow up. On the other hand, it's rather sad to see a human so screwed up, but it's not your responsibility to change this person either.

Answer 2

Liz the first answerer is correct and here is why. Psycopaths know the rules of society. These also know how to be seen and accepted - to get approval and acclaim. These know right and wrong from being taught but this is not a part of their inner mind often called the conscience or the heart. Psycopaths know how to insure their security through the process of social bargins and by doing for others they gain trust. Some psychopaths though do not have a feeling one way or another about many things. Haters are full of fear and percieved threat. Haters are in a delusional state this is often taught but may be a chemical state of mind that came with a pollution or by birth. There is a great deal of difference between seeing something as others do and seeing things from a different perspective. For example. A person living on the coast of California may see the ocean as commom and every day whereas a person from the midwest may see the ocean as awesome and inspiring. Same goes for the rolling fields of wheat to a person of the desert. Many things are perspective. It is important to find why a person thinks as they do. It may be experiences or it may be taught predjudices. If this person is taught that homeless people are pathetic and losers then they are without understanding of their stories and why they are where they are. Mistake one is to think these folks are less than. Mistake two is to think they are better than. Mistake three (important) is to not find out. I will take a poor loving person over a wealthy hippocrite anyday. Jesus taught about this. He said your outward appearence is clean but inside you are a bag of rotten bones. Matthew 23:27 Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye are like unto whited sepulchres, which indeed appear beautiful outward, but are within full of dead men's bones, and of all uncleanness

Answer 3

Agreed.

Answer 4

disagree, i know somebody that could easily fall into all of those categories. I was good friends with this person before the onset of a mental illness and even now through all of the crap that comes with it, I still think she is a beautiful person. Difficult, but still valuable and nice.

Answer 5

the person is mentally ill and needs help and any one who has to be around the person probably needs help dealing with him or her. sometimes it is necessary to call the police if some one is hurting you and you cant stop them or get away from them..

Answer 6

AND, meaning all three? agree, to an extent. unless there is a psychological disorder, in which case they are pity-able.

Answer 7

Well it depends because the person might be nice to some people that he/she likes, but may be mean, etc. (like you explained) to other people

Answer 8

Hope you can be brave enough to get out of it before
it can get worst. .

Been there,, I lost my self confidence, friends,,
my joy was completely gone,, no self esteem,, etc. .. . .

It will eventually mentally destroy you, if you choose to stay..
Please do yourself a favor . .

Answer 9

Uh yeah and I really hope you are not talking about a boyfriend because if you are sorry to say but he is cheating.Good luck

Answer 10

agreed