2007-02-01 10:08:47 · 23 answers · asked by James 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Because alot of girls really dont know what they want. They think the person they are going for is nice because they are blinded by other things and dont see what that guy is really like.
2007-02-01 10:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Here's what I've learned from my experiences. The girls that go for the "nice" guys end up with jerks. Sometimes a guy can appear to be a nice guy and in the end he turns out to not be so nice. That has happened to me a few times.
As for nice guys ending up in the 'friend zone' yeah it can happen. But good friendships do develop into good relationships. Think of it this way the next time you are thinking about one of your friends: a relationship is like building a house, you need to put down the foundation so that you can build on to that. Friendship is the foundation for a great relationship.
There are girls out there that do want a nice guy, not some jerk that will cheat on her or mistreat her. I know there are pleny of nice, decent guys out there, but you have to show yourself to the girl or else she might not notice you. Take a chance if there's someone you are interested in, what do you have to lose? You might become her friend first and see where things go from there.
2007-02-01 10:22:26 · answer #2 · answered by Blue Eyes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
nice guys finish last. Nice guys are no challenge and all a woman wants and needs for the short run is a challenge. Something usually then gets in the middle and mucks up the whole thing but in the beginning they will all tell you first its sense of humor then looks then money and they never mention the challenge why do you think so many women spend so much time taking other womens men? The challenge. Nice guys a a push over and are no challenge. so I told all my kids growing up play hard to get and another thing. Easy isn't worth much to anyone. Tell them no tell them no! Then no again and again and then say maybe.
2007-02-01 10:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women just say they want a nice guy because it's what others expect to hear and it sounds good. They could never say 'I'm looking for a creep or a jerk.
What gets the woman is the aggressiveness. most jerks have that trait in spades. Nice guys don't....they are normally meek and spineless.
2007-02-01 10:13:06 · answer #4 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The classic 'Bad Boy' paradox. In short, the most common reason for this is that women mistake these types of attitudes for qualities of inner strength, leadership, protection and the like. As well as the exciting potential of finding the nice guy treasure inside them, the best of both worlds. Another reason is the 'challenge'. To be the woman to 'change' him, or to 'smooth out' the rough edges turning into a well rounded, balanced person.
Nice guys are commonly perceived as 'weak' and even though a woman may be attracted to a nice guy, his affable nature may lack personal challenge, deliberate actions and security, in short.
I know, it's happened to me.
2007-02-01 11:03:24 · answer #5 · answered by Benevolent Enigma 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont know either:(...If I could find a cute sweetheart then I would be so happy=).....but some times the nice guys dont let the girl know....so then the jerks end up going for it...and get the girl before the nice guy.....but I dont know:(....its a sad case
2007-02-01 10:11:54 · answer #6 · answered by Bethyboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women want a challenge. There is nothing that turns a woman off faster than finding a guy who kisses her a** constantly.
That's not to say you have to be a jerk, but you do have to be your own man. You have to make your own decisions and stand by them. You have to be willing to stand your ground when it comes to things and let her know how you feel.
Nobody loves a doormat.
2007-02-01 10:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by summit_of_human_intellect 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that's not really true.Girls like guys who flirts with them and even if the guy is good can Show that he's interested in a girl.You can become a good friend first but you Still have to show her that you like her.Because if you give us just a friends vibe than we get scared of loosing a good friend and nothing happens.
2007-02-01 10:15:54 · answer #8 · answered by lali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women admire and want a strong, smart, good looking, confident guy...unfortunately most of these guys are arrogant a$$es who don't appreciate and respect women due to how many women just drop at his feet.
2007-02-01 10:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are like that and there are many who are looking for that wonderful, loving guy, they're just hard to find sometimes. Don't give up, you'll get the woman who will appreciate you for you :-)
2007-02-01 10:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by mauinei34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋