my ex and i broke up in october, we worked together so we had to remain on good terms- which was really difficult as it hurt everytime i had to see him. we went out for christmas drinks with work and things got a bit bitchy after the alcohol( everybody else trying to get involved) we ended up not speaking.he left work and took another job so ive not heard anythin from him since before christmas. he just turned up at my house and my housemate let him in, he acted as if nothing has gone on and stayed for two hours
only thing is since weve stopped speaking ive gotten over all the hurt and have put myself back together and feel that i dont really want him in my llife- not even as a friend. i was doin so well so why do i feel like ive gone back ten spaces! what now????
2007-02-01 10:06:46 · 9 answers · asked by serenbach 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Simply tell him that you are 'over him' and that you no longer even want to be friends. Also tell your housemate NEVER to let him 'in' to your place again, but to tell him 'I'll take a message and pass it on' and then shut the door on him ... YOU haven't gone back 'ten paces' but he is trying to 'manipulate you' into doing just that.
2007-02-01 10:11:02 · answer #1 · answered by Kris L 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure you are doing soo well.
If you are really over it, you should be able to see ur ex and chat with him for hours without feeling like you have gone back 10 spaces.
My suggestion, get a new boyfriend. It is easier to get over these things when you have someone u can talk to.
2007-02-01 19:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by jahblez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut the strings. block his number. when relationships end, if there a lot of feelings involved, I truly believe it is impossible to have a friendship with an ex. Rip off the plaster quickly. Put a full stop at the end of that.
2007-02-01 18:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by qoac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never go backwords. it my biggest fear. now you have a clear head, was it all that great of a relationship? and if even being there in the same room together makes you hurt all over again, you should seriously think about yourself.
try not to go backwards. just, cut it off like he did to you after christmas party
2007-02-01 18:13:31 · answer #4 · answered by ktlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay calm the feeling that u have is normal just stay focus and remember what took place with him when he was in your life and the hurt. It will pass
2007-02-01 18:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by keepitreal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him...One day down the road you'll meet a nice guy and you will totally forget him...
Before I got married when a girl we leave me...I thought I was over her..then i her a song or something...that would bum me out...now since I'm married those old songs don't bother me anymore
2007-02-01 18:14:59 · answer #6 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are over him and that there is really no room for him in your life, even as a friend. It may sound a little harsh but it's what's best for you.
2007-02-01 18:10:54 · answer #7 · answered by Pamela S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not look back and move forward with your life. It should not have taken him that long to mend the pieces.
2007-02-01 18:11:08 · answer #8 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just for get him
2007-02-01 18:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by .:aRi:. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋