What can i do to feel better?

Question

what can i do about getting over a feeling of grief? i have just lost someone very close and dont know what to do. any ideas?? help please

I have spoken to a friend, but she hasnt helped. its what i have heard before i am really lost and dont know which way to go

Answer 1

Depends on how close you were, weather it was human or animal, It is always hard to get over grief. Or is it grief of losing a person by parting. Try and get some company of any kin, or friend.The only thing left is to try and get on with your life, if it was a parting. If it was a death, then allow yourself time to morn, then you will find it easier to understand they will always be with you in spirit and in your memories. Hang on to the good times.

Answer 2

I've been there, but to be honest I still grief sometimes, though it's been a while now.. my dad passed away 8yrs ago now (more or less, can't exactly remember,, then my caring sister the year after, also I've to mention that my brother in law died the year before my dad )

What I do of course is let my tears flow.. then focus my attention to something else..
I read beautiful books,, (not about grieving thou) or get out of the house,, be with friends ,, just let your mind be occupied always . .

And the most powerful is "'acceptance'"
Accept that that someone is not coming back,, no matter what . .
Accept that she's/he's gone but at least you have some things to be remembered.
Accept that there a time for everything,, a time to be born and a time to die ,, it just happened they go first..
Accept the fact . . because there's nothing we can do . .

But time heals . . . try to call the grief hotline ,, don't know where you live,, but there's always that service somewhere.
May the LORD bless your heart.

Answer 3

Unfortunatley nothing anybody can say will bring this person back, or lessen the pain. Over time things will get easier - although it may not seem like they will right now. They say that it can take between 1 - 3 years to grieve the loss of someone close to you. I can identify with that - it took me about 2 years after my dad died, for the pain to ease. Having said that, you never completley forget the person - unfortunatley losing someone you love changes your life forever - and when you can accept that, you can start to slowly move on. Perhaps talking to a counselor would help you....it helped me. Maybe you could do something to remember the person by, such as naming a star with their name, or raising some money for their favorite charity. Get out your favorite photo of them and have it framed. Take the time to visit their resting place. Speak to them. Although they are not here in the flesh - they are very much in your heart forever. Take care.xx

Answer 4

I'm really sorry for your loss. The thing is, I don't think it is possible to get over the feeling of grief. It'll always be a dent spot, but one thing you can do is to think about what the person would've wanted you to do in a situation like this. Or you could go do something that the two of you have done before. This may be hard, but it helps. At least it did for me.

Take care.

Answer 5

Take a deep breath at the start of each day, do it when your standing in front of a mirror and have your hair tied up (if its short brush any stray hairs behind your ear)
Look at yourself in the mirror and say loudly "I AM GOING TO HAVE A GOOD DAY!" and then smile.
If u take a bus/car/walk listen to some upbeat music or music with a fast pace that makes you smile, that will help release endorphins and any good feeling chemicals in your body.
Its okay to be sad about you recently deceased friend but that person is okay! Its you that you need to focus on.
Also if you feel like your gonna cry then do it! Okay dont do it in public that might seem a little strange but go to a bathroom cubicle and let it out, or put your face in a pillow and let it all out.
Another thing that helps is writing down each time you thought of that person at the end of the day, it'll help you to know when your feeling you lowest.
hope you feeel better soon
x

Answer 6

Jesus... that stinks but do one thing..learn from this loss.

Make a memory of the people you still have in your life that are important to you. Remember their smell, cologne, perfume etc.. and remember some of the weird things they say that make you smile because that way when they are gone you can have a little piece of them with you always.

I have lost almost everyone I loved as a child and all I have are memories of them..memories are the best medicine for what you are going through.

Hang on to your good memories of the person you lost, maybe go somewhere they liked to go and just remember them in your heart. That way they will live forever in your heart and after a while the pain will lesson but for real it will never pass.

Answer 7

I'm still grieving for someone I lost 2 years ago. Don't keep the grief bottled up like I have, it only makes it worse. Talk to someone you're close to, or if you're having difficulties in everyday life, and it causes depression, I reccommend seeing a therapist depending how horrible you are feeling.

Answer 8

Go to your doctor and ask to be seen by a counsellor. If your doc doesn't know of your loss, then explain what's happened and tell them how it is effecting you. Tell them just how bad you are feeling and that you would like some help dealing with it. sometimes it takes someone who knows nothing about you, for you to say all that you are really feeling to. Talking and time are the best healers for grief. Please don't bottle it up. Good luck!

Answer 9

You might consider constructing a memorial to the loved one you lost.
A memorial can take many forms and can be 'real' or representative.
For instance, you might make a memorial in the corner of your room with some things that remind you of the person.
Or you might create a stepping stone for your lawn or garden with the person's name or a quote from them.
Or you might donate to a charity or church in their name.
If you are artistic you might paint a picture of the person, or make a mosaic that represents something you shared with the person, or write a poem or story which relates your most memorable moments with the person.
The options are limitless. The idea is to put a tangible shape, color, and texture to your relationship with the person.

Answer 10

Well: the best effort is to find "Happyness" as mentioned also
of where get some new "Hobbies" for yourself like making stuff
with "ArtsnCraftsSupply " yes these are very important & helpful
or try in "Coin Collecting" ,maybe do house cleaning plus meet
friends ok ?