I had got engaged. but he wants to wait for a ring. I want to tell people, but he wants to wait.
2007-02-01 09:58:50 · 14 answers · asked by muri 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it is a personal thing. Sometimes it embarrasses a man that he has not put the ring onto you yet. So to avoid the embarrassment he is fearing, (which is the ONLY reason he would tell you to wait,) you should give it some time.
Hugs and good luck on your upcoming marriage... (Shhhh, I am also getting married soon. )
2007-02-01 10:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by Cutelilminxy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The ring doesn't matter... "Engaged" means you two have decided to get married. If you have made this decision - you are engaged, regardless of the presence or the absence of the ring. That said, I think you should respect his wishes - although, IMO, there isn't a reason to wait. When my husband and I decided to get married, we told everyone, and we didn't even get a ring until about a month or two later - when we had the time to go pick it out together.
2007-02-01 18:27:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't really engaged until both of you are ready to tell the world. If he wants to wait for a ring, you need to do the same.
It sounds to me like your boyfriend doesn't consider the two of you engaged until he puts a ring on your finger. I know you are excited, but let him be romantic, and wait until you are both ready to tell the world.
2007-02-01 18:08:47 · answer #3 · answered by peperhead 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so! Because the first thing your freinds/family will say is Congrats! Then they'll want to see a ring! Is a good way to show off how much your new "fiancee" loves you!
...Then again, Ive been engaged for about 2 years and I still dont have a ring! What matters most is that you love eachother and you're getting married!
2007-02-01 18:07:41 · answer #4 · answered by b.pinacolada 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course you need to wait. You are not officially engaged until you have a ring and a date.
2007-02-02 07:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares about the ring?!?!?
The ring doesn't matter. Sure it's a symbol.
But you are OFFICIALLY ENGAGED. You don't need a ring to let people know that.
The ring is just an OBJECT.
If they want to see some object on their finger, then they're just stupid. It doesn't mean that you AREN'T engaged if you don't have the ring.
2007-02-01 18:07:15 · answer #6 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes. in a way it is good to wait. that way people can't doubt you or have any second thoughts about what is happening because the proof is right there on your finger. from your point of view though, i understand that you are excited about what is going on and can't wait to share it with others. the way you and your boyfriend feel is perfectly natural and i agree with the both of you. just sit down and come to mutual agreement about this. i am sure everyone will be just as estatic whether you wait to tell or not. congrats on your engagement. good luck.
2007-02-01 18:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, if that ring is supposed to be diamond, skip the ring entirely. Unless, of course, you like the idea of supporting terrorism.
You have to figure this one out between you. You will have to figure things out between the two of you for the rest of your lives, and you may as well start doing so now.
2007-02-01 18:07:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definately, right away ppl will ask to see your ring, and then you're going to have to explain the reason why, and it may be weird. But I definately wouldn't hold back from telling your family!
2007-02-01 18:08:27 · answer #9 · answered by Civita 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait. First thing they are going to ask you is "Where is the ring?"
2007-02-01 18:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋