I have just moved to Australia with my family. My little girl has started a new school. This school is very keen on playing cricket and sports. As we are from the UK, we are getting a lot of grief about having lost the cricket, and my little girl is very upset about the other children always putting her down about 'her Country' losing the cricket. Now, she doesn't want to join in any sports, especially the cricket. She has tried to pretend that she is injured and has also been crying about it.
My husband thinks I should go and see her new teacher, but the thing is that even the teachers rub it in about cricket, it seems to be an Australian past-time. So far I have comforted her and said that playing sports is fun and that it will help her to make new friends at her new school, that she should give it a chance.
Any advice would be gratefully appreciated.
2007-02-01 09:55:45 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Its good to see differing viewpoints, its really helping me to try to see it from other people's perspectives. Thanks.
2007-02-01 11:06:33 · update #1
Maybe try and get her into a sport outside of school.
Have your daughter mention to those that tease her know that she herself didn't lose, the team did and that it has no bearing on who she is a person.
Sorry to hear that you guys are having a rough time.
2007-02-01 10:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by DEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely don't push her. And definitely go talk to her teacher and let her know that your daughter is having a difficult time with the pressure that the entire school is putting her for not knowing how to play cricket. Tell them to back off and to allow your daughter a chance to get used to her new environment. I'm sure the move from the UK to Australia was stressful on her so she needs time to adjust. Maybe let your daughter pick an after-school activity that she enjoys or wants to learn (dancing, music, art....) to take her mind off things, and let her know that it's ok to play a sport at school that she's not great at. All that matters is that we experience new things and keep our minds open to new adventures.
2007-02-01 18:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by chnchita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sportswise:OK show your daughter something that promotes sports maybe even with another girl playing them.Something like the movie She's The Man to promote soccer would be ok and it has a funny story line for her to get into as well.Or Blue Crush to promote surfing (I would so love to live in australia waves there are amazing) but that might be a little above her age level.....
For the rest: Well you should probably give her this comeback to say to the kids,
1.Have her laugh at the kids joke or crack or whatever first to enlighten them and show she doesnt care.
2.Have her smile and say "Yeah well guess what?Our flag is still on yours."
2007-02-01 18:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by Barbsss 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Children are the same the world over, and that age is difficult for a girl anyways (I have 2, both teenagers). The teachers being part of the problem can easily be dealt with by calling their supervisor, they should have to apologize in front of the class to your daughter and use the time to explain what good sportsmanship really is. In time your daughter will find herself and things will get better for her. In the meantime, just love her and support her. Sometimes a parents job is just a shoulder to cry on.
2007-02-01 18:08:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should probably do is make her see you(or the person she looks up to) playing a sport out side. convince her to play with you and make her see how good she can be or atleast see that it is fun... if that doesnt work, then try to show her music. Instruments, vocals,etc. I am currently in madrigal(the highest vocal class) and this is my first year in Any chior. I was shy and not sure i could do it. i had friends help me through evrything and now im doing fine because i found somethinf that interested me.
2007-02-01 18:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by Carol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont force her to do anything she hates as much as she seems to in this situation. you need to pick your battles wisely and if you start forcing her to do things now she is going to start rejecting everything you say and rebeling and when she hints her teen years she will probably do something that you and her will regret for the rest of your lives because you started pushing her away at such a young age
2007-02-01 18:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by sup3rs0cc3rch1ck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your lil lass She shouldn't be discouraged, tell her to go ahead and play, being a good player is a better than being a poor spectator and playing is a good way to make friends
2007-02-01 18:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by kevferg64 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her it's unfortunate that they missed one of the benefits of sports, and that is to learn to play well with others. It's an opportunity for her to see and learn how obnoxious it is to be ungracious.
some experiences in life only give us the benefit of being examples of how NOT to be.
2007-02-01 18:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by answer faerie, V.T., A. M. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋