2007-02-01 09:46:51 · 13 answers · asked by Lagina S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I believe that it is okay tell her if she avoids and ignores him for the rest of the year then why confuse the kid they dont even know who she is then why go through the troble of seeing her you might as well tell her if you dont make an effort to try to see him or talk to him either time of the year then why I believe if you dont see him or make an effort to and if not then you need to make a choice do you want to or not.
2007-02-01 09:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by princess_bee_2006 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well first of all that is a really bad thing to do. Avoiding a little boy and just wanting to see him on Christmas is selfish. But, she is your husbands mother...it is Christmas and you need to show her that you are not as small of a person as she is. IF you dont go to her at Christmas she will know you dont like her...which you problem dont, but why give her the upper hand. Why give her any ammunition to talk about you (she doesnt even visit on Christmas)...etc. Its just not worth the few hours...one time a year you have to put up with being with her. Your son will grow up regardless...and every day with children is priceless...its HER LOSS.
2007-02-01 17:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by natashainka 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Consider what you wish to accomplish by this action ?
Is it going to build on the family unit or drive a wedge in it. ?
Are you trying to be understanding or spiteful ?
If you feel you have been wronged, do you think 2 wrongs make a right ?
Would your action make your husband proud of you or would he feel torn by your decision ?
Please consider your motives in every situation. It is so easy when you are young to get caught up in trying to fix other people instead of just working on making our immediate family happy. Mountains can become molehills and we are quick to assume we know what goes on in anothers home life when we really don't.
Strive for peace at all cost,you will be so glad one day that you made the effort. Your husband can't help but love you for it.~ Jill
2007-02-01 18:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You most certainly have every right to stay away, and maybe you should. If she doesn't care enough to see her grandchild throughout the rest of the year, I don't think Christmas will be much different. If he's around her and she shows that she doesn't want to be around him, that's damaging to the child.
2007-02-01 18:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by Persephone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure it is ok. she doesn't want anything to do with him the rest of the year, why should she have anything to do with him on christmas? if she wanted to be around him she would come around on other occasions as well. this isn't a good way for your mother-in-law to act. when your child grows up and figures this out on his own, he may resent her for not being in his life more. you are justified for feeling this way. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-01 18:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your hubby's feeling about this? Have you spoken to her about why she ignores your son? I had to live that way for 23 years (with my MIL) but I also had to remember she was hubby's mother. I certainly let him know how I felt but I don't think you should make your son suffer for her ignorance. He will figure her out before long. She will be the real loser.
2007-02-01 20:27:20 · answer #6 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you have the right to avoid your mother in law for the whole year if she wants to act that way!
2007-02-01 17:50:47 · answer #7 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK i am on this one. DO NOT GO.!!! if your significant other is ok with the my mom ignores her grandson...you need to give him/her a kick in the can. If this happened to me i would NOT go. I would do all i could to keep the boy away from her. Here son this is your grand mom, you wont ever see her again....she does not like you.
2007-02-01 17:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by recon 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes
2007-02-01 17:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communicate! You need to gently, without argument find out why she ignores the boy. You never know what is in someone's life.
2007-02-01 17:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋