He currently works as a carpenter full time (40 hrs/wk) and is starting full time night classes (3-4 nights per week) in April. He will be going to college for the next three years. I work part time jobs here and there to pay down credit cards, etc. We both really want to start a family but I'm concerned that he will be too stressed... anyone been there, done that? THANKS!
2007-02-01 09:46:13 · 7 answers · asked by hmm 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
He is currently in school? If he is going to school, then you should planning ot having with him. Having a child will create more stress for you and him. Since you on debt with the crdit card, please dont! Starting a family is a good idea, but make sure both of you are ready in form of income, times and effort. Think of having a family once he is done with school and have a stable job!
2007-02-01 09:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by kathy T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is always full of stress ... either now or later. You both should talk about it and come to an agreement and go from there.
My husband and I got married while he was in the Marines ... that was hard because he was gone a lot ... but we really wanted to start our family so we did. Things have a way of always working out.
2007-02-01 09:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by ♥just me♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd say wait until he finishes school. Having a child is stressful enough without adding him going to school 3-4 nights a week. I understand you both wanting to start a family, but you don't want to add to an already stressful situation.
2007-02-01 09:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say wait until your financially stable. i'm still not done with school and it's hard for my husband to constantly be with my son but in your situation it would be the other way around and you would be at home with your baby all the time. it's hard , i would say enjoy each other time and company for now wait about a year or two then have kids. you miss that alone time in the future and you have the time in the world to get pregnant who knows it might happen when you least expect it ;-) good luck and i hope that i help
2007-02-01 09:52:14 · answer #4 · answered by teinegurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy, please wait. You want your child to have everything, and that is including BOTH of his parents. You need to have a happy, loving home. Without one of his parents there you child will suffer. Do you want that? I am fortunate enough to be a stay at home mom, and my husband works 6-3 every day. My son is now 17 months old and says dada all day long. Talks to his dad on the phone during the day (well kinda) but they have a great relasionship. You as a mother of course have the main duties, but until you have a baby you will never know how much it consumes your life. Just wait a couple of years till your husband is out of school so you can share all of what it takes to be a parent rather than tyring to do it yourself. My friends and I are fortunate enough that our husbands are great, helpful, and loving fathers. It is so much harder than you think. Not to discourage you, but you will need help. My girlfriend is 30years old and her daughter is 6 months old now, but her and her husband were so set in there ways that it was so bad. She still says till this day you don't realize how hard it is to be a mom until you are one.
2007-02-01 10:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by michelle v 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep in mind that he has set his goals and may not be available to help out as much as you want.
2007-02-01 09:48:48 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People do it all the time.Where theres a will theres a way!Good luck to both of you!!
2007-02-01 09:49:22 · answer #7 · answered by lady2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋