He lied,cheated,and strung me along. I found out he was seeing me and someone else from work and now he's moved her in and they are engaged. I cant believe what he's done and i only found out recently when someone told me he announced to everyone at work but me. I feel nothing but anger all day,everyday,i keep analyzing it in my head and have nothing but bad thoughts about getting back at him,how do i control myself to not kill him when i see him at work because i'm stuck there at the moment and he's not leaving?
2007-02-01 09:32:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Deception and betrayal are hard ones to get past. Sometimes the after-effects linger on for YEARS!
You didn't say how old you are. In general, the younger you are, the more quickly you are able to move on to another, hopefully BETTER, relationship.
Find diversions. The more you mope around and dwell on what MIGHT have been (had he not been such a heartless liar!), the worse off YOU will be! I know this sounds cruel - and it IS! - but HE has moved on, and so should YOU!!
I know it sounds cliche, but there is someone out there, just for you. Keep on looking! I know I will.
2007-02-01 10:02:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...tough question with tougher answer. If you are dealing with anger you are dealing with complex emotions that can not easily be explained. Time is what the so called experts say will heal your aching heart. You are more hurt than angry and have experienced a huge loss. You must grieve you loss. Anger is only part of what you are going through. There are many books on dealing with loss...find one, read it. Get another...read it too. Find ways to work on yourself and deal with your loss. There is nothing easy about it. No easy answer either. If you just waste time trying to occupy yourself or just make yourself busy, your heart will just get worse. You have work to do. My advice is to not let it happen to yourself again. Besides...was he really ever worth it? Don't waste time or yourself again. Find a way to not let the past repeat.
2007-02-01 17:49:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a pillow, pretend it's him or some part of his anatomy and beat the heck out of it when you feel the anger. There's no way to get over it but to go through the process. Don't try to not feel the feelings. When you are alone, embrace them and concentrate on them and hold on to them. Oddly enough, the longer you hold on to them, cry, and feel the feelings, the sooner they'll be gone.
2007-02-01 17:38:43 · answer #3 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are better off without him. It is hard to get over an ex if they are always in your face. Find a new job. You don't need the headache of being around this guy.
2007-02-01 17:38:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be glad you're not dating a lying cheater. Be glad you're not the fool who agreed to marry the bozo. And look for another job.
2007-02-01 17:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why you should have thought about the consequences of dating co-workers. Now, go file your sexual harassment suit and get him fired from his job. Dating your co-worker can only end in one of you quitting your job, or one of you filing for sexual harassment.
2007-02-01 17:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't even sweat it he's not worth it what he did to you someone will end up doig to him but if you do want to get him back talk to a fine *** guy and bring him around
2007-02-01 17:37:24 · answer #7 · answered by MIchell G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and blow him off.
There is no need to work yourself up and make yourself crazy over this guy.
2007-02-01 17:35:48 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL IM SORRY TO HEAR THAT- DONT WORRY HE;LL GET WHATS COMMING TO HIM- HE DESERVES IT!!!!!!
2007-02-01 17:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋