I have a friend who is always worried about her weight. Her boyfriend just broke up because of it. I told her that i agreed with him and that she needed to stop obsessing about it. She was sooo mad. All i wanted to know was THIS RIGHT OR NOT!!!
2007-02-01 09:30:36 · 6 answers · asked by Lucy1125 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's never right to tell a girl she is fat or has a problem with her weight. Girls can't handle it.
2007-02-01 09:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both actually, you can agree with him that she is too obsessive of her weight. BUT and I can't stress this enough, agreeing with him makes it seem like you are on his side of the break up (hence why your friend is mad). Your best bet would be to apologize to her (remember.... she just got dumped and then you agreed with her b/f... atleast in her mind).
It'd be like getting bit by your dog and then telling the person that got bit that it was their fault, not the dogs... while it very well may have been, that's not what they want to hear at the moment and will become defensive.
2007-02-01 17:39:00 · answer #2 · answered by Ride to Live, Live to Ride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how he (and you) have become fed up with her insecurities. But maybe you could have worded it a little differently. As stupid as it may be that she's so obsessed with it, she's obviously very insecure and having her friend defend her boyfriend probably upset her even more. Explain to her that the fact that she's so unhappy with herself is affecting her relationships with other people and that you are concerned. She needs to work on her self esteem and figure out why she's so obsessed with her appearance. Only then will she be able to be in a happy relationship.
2007-02-01 17:47:13 · answer #3 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The strength of her reaction to your comment should be sufficient evidence, if any more were needed, that she maintains an unhealthy focus on her weight. I hope that her boyfriend leaving and her friends confronting her will encourage her to see her obsession for what it is. If she ever speaks to you again you should make it clear that you only said what you did because you care about her. Sometimes friendship demands that you tell the truth.
2007-02-01 17:40:30 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't be mad at you. Maybe it was kinda hard for her to hear it from her own friend, especially if you just said it STRAIGHT UP. Tell her that her weight isn't what's causing all the problems. It's HER, and that if she doesn't stop, it's going to continue happening, ESPECIALLY if she obsesses about it.
2007-02-01 17:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by Giving a helping-hand 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea you gotta be honest. If she is obsessing over something TELL her! You can't just lie to her! Good Job. She has a character flaw just like anyone and you just took the first step in helping her. You are a good friend.
2007-02-01 17:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by rigby88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋