ive been cheated on broken up with so many times and it hurts and it will for a long time and i dont want to feel it any more i tried to hide it by having causual s** but it doesnt work it makes it hurt worse
2007-02-01 09:28:23 · 9 answers · asked by valreemariecreed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find another partner and work on having a meaningful relationship.
2007-02-01 09:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as "casual sex"! Sex is serious business that is intended for married men and women! You are only giving in to all this hurt and letting it eat away at you EVEN MORE by disrespecting yourself and having sex. It's not your problem that you've been cheated on and broken up with... you've just gotten some pretty shittty guys!! Find a guy that you know will love YOU and ONLY YOU! And stop sleeping around!
2007-02-01 17:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time can really truly help. You can always talk to a friend, or someone who's close to you... but sex isnt the answer, especially if its making you feel worse. Just wait, say you dont want to be in a relationship at the moment. Or your not ready. Take it easy and be layed back and relaxed, when you find someone you know you'll be happy with, go for it and be happy with them, good luck!
2007-02-01 17:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a lot of girls can relate to how you feel. I dated this guy and I liked him so much but he ended it because he knows I'm saving sex for marriage. It hurt a lot. I have a close friend who is in a similar situation like you. She's gotten hurt by so many guys and I think she tries to hide her true feelings by having casual sex. Yet now she has started to stop doing that, and she is finishing university and her goal is to get into law school.
I think you need to stop thinking about boys for awhile, they only hurt and distract us girls from becoming successful in our lives. I suggest take a break from the dating world for awhile to sort things out. If you feel really hurt talk to others about it. Have coffee with your friends & try to stengthen your friends and family relationships rather than thinking that guys can help your problems, cuz they can't, guys just make things worse. I'm not a man-hater but I just see how so many girls get hurt by them.
Stop dating for awhile and just focus on yourself. Get a good education, find a new job or work harder in your current job, travel, volunteer and help others. That way, you will see that there is a whole world out there that is bigger than you. Try to find out what it is that YOU really wanna do. Talk to a career advisor and see how you can find your path in life. Because boys will always suck, there is only one way that us girls can make our lives better, through education and a good job!
Who knows, maybe you can turn this negative into a positive, maybe you could get a career helping other women and girls:)
2007-02-01 17:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by Hottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been hurting yourself by inviting these people into your life. They will hurt others no matter what their situation.You attract what you project.It sounds as if you suffer from low self esteem. Ask your doctor for a list of counsellors in your area,they operate on a donation system, so if you can't afford much they wont expect a whole lot .
2007-02-01 17:52:15 · answer #5 · answered by hogasnogie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost - try not to focus on that and focus on what makes you great! and not worthy of anyone who would cheat on you!!!! Cheaters are LOSERS and UNDESERVING of someone as special as you are!! confidence confidence!!! You are Number One! and only someone who is deserving of you should be with you... if they break up - who cares!? it's THEIR LOSS you have to use reverse psychology and turn this around!!! Thinking confidently and positively about yourself will get you a winner!!! and someone who truly LOVES and is committed to you! good luck
2007-02-01 17:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by thenakats 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try volunteer work, going to church singles meetings, and any self group. Good Luck.
2007-02-01 17:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by beccahippie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there and it will get better. You will find someone when u least expect it.
2007-02-01 17:32:24 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking for Mr. Right... he is out there!!
2007-02-01 17:31:41 · answer #9 · answered by Dave ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋