My Fiancee is leaving for basic training for 4 months and i want to move an hour away from our home town .. I found a better job.. He doesn't understand that i want to move because i found a better paying job. He thinks i'm going to find someone else just because i'm looking for a roommate.. He's leaving in a month and i need this other job... I don't know what to tell him ... He thinks it's stupid that i have to move an hour away to find a good paying job... I don't know what to do ?? I want to take this job but i don't want to loose him... I told him i won't go ... but now i can't seem to find a good paying job here... and i need the money and i don't think he understands that i can't always get money from my parents or anyone like that... WHAT SHOULD I DO >>>??? WHAT SHOULD I SAY TO HIM >???
2007-02-01 09:28:22 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He should be a lot more understanding.
It sounds like you've already done enough explaining to him.
He needs to grow up and understand that you aren't moving away to "find someone else" but to better your life.
He'll be moving away too in 4 months so why is it such a big problem?
Tell him that if he doesn't trust you then you can't trust him either. After he's done with his basic training theres no telling where he will be stationed so the tables will be turned then. How would he feel if you told him you couldn't trust him?
A relationship w/out trust is not a realtionship.
2007-02-01 09:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't understand that you have to move for a better job, this guy is not grown up enough to be marrying right now. I'm not saying "dump him," but he has some maturing to do. Hopefully the military will help with this.
He'd have to be pretty ignorant not to be aware of the job situation in his own hometown. He's either controlling or insecure. Moving for a better job and trying to get a roommate (female, I assume) is very normal and he shouldn't have a problem with it. Tell him you're going to do it, and if he leaves you, he wasn't worth having.
2007-02-01 17:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by BB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i am sorry i dont believe you need him to be happy i wont be surprised if you might even end up cheating on him because you found somehting in one man that you couldnt find in him so to spare his feelings i would consider breaking up with him
sorry if i might have said the wrong thig
2007-02-01 17:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by marvin_martian0506 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him help you pick out the roomate and he may be more comfortable.
2007-02-01 17:31:51 · answer #4 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you really need it and if he really cared about you he would listen.
2007-02-01 17:31:49 · answer #5 · answered by A Girl With a Dream 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should say " u can come with me i love you!!!!!!!!"
2007-02-01 17:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by mouse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋