I have never looked at him like this before until we had a pretty big arguement. I am happily married and so is he. I just feel kinda odd that I realized how much I really do like him.
2007-02-01 09:17:22 · 15 answers · asked by truck gal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should never date co-workers, especially married ones, especially someone who has power over you. It can only end in one of you (guess which one) quitting your job, or one of you (again, guess which one) filing for sexual harassment.
You should stop being delusional about your current marriage. If you are happily married, you would not be looking at someone else. Maybe it's divorce time. Then, you can do whatever you want, but don't date co-workers. Bad bad idea.
2007-02-01 09:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation is not rare...
First, let me explain love and marriage.... (non-professionally of course but hey!)
There are (fact) 3 types of love:
1. That first love when you feel which is almost liek a natural body produced high.... lasts half a year i think (not sure)
2. The second love is much more subtle altho last for about 2-3 years, (i vague but in the ball park)
3. The third most subtle type of love takes time to establish (family members) and lasts forever...
Really, you should have made sure you were at least in the 2nd type of love before marriage, altho if you werent no prob...
If your happy were you are, stay that way... this crush that you have will go away (dont rush into things)....
if you are not happy and dont really have anything to lose, go for it... altho ask yourself why your not divorced...
If anything you will stop loving your boss soon enough, so if you really want to go into differant relationships you should not be married in the first place...
If your stuck becuase of financial trouble,,,,,,,,
hmmm
well, thats a bummer,
i hope thats not the case :D!
2007-02-01 17:27:08 · answer #2 · answered by porky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with having a little crush. You guys work close together everyday. I am a happily married woman myself and have had a little crush on my boss before, too.
I think that going any further than that would be highly inappropriate for you, your boss and your husband. But I think you know that already. Keep it in check, girl. You'll be fine.
2007-02-01 17:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by AJM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that is where the problem comes in. if you are not happily married with your husband that is one thing. i suggest that you do not go and try to break up some one elses marriage because you would not want that done to you. i am sure you can be fond of another man/woman when you are married. but rather then looking for other people while in a marriage just break off your own marriage so you can walk away with clean hands and a good conscience. good luck to you.
2007-02-01 17:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a real crush. There is a term in psychology called "transference." You see your boss as an authorative person who has significant impact and control over your life. You transfer feelings to him due to his role in your life. Don't confuse this as the real thing. You will lose your marriage, your job, your self esteem, and your reputation.
2007-02-01 17:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by GPF 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being attracted to him - but it would be totally wrong to act on it. Even if you both were single it would be a bad idea to act on it since he is your boss.
2007-02-01 17:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were truly happily married you wouldn't be having these thoughts. you need to either snap out of it, or leave your husband. but do not cheat. imagine how hurt your husband would be if you did that.
2007-02-01 17:20:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"i thought u said you were happily married"
remember your vow, what did your husband do to u to deserve u considering having an affair
2007-02-01 17:25:49 · answer #8 · answered by Christina L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to be attracted to people who are authoritive figures in your life, especially if you have respect for them... even if they are not attractive, however, why would you ruin your life and his for lust? Your family, his family... because if you are willing to do that, then you obviously don't love him. Accept how you feel and be a professional.
2007-02-01 17:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by wonderwoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woman woman woman! if you happily married please don't do anything to break your happy family. just stay away to that situation don't tell to your boss about how you feel maybe he feel the same thing.
2007-02-01 17:28:59 · answer #10 · answered by luvu4ever14344 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋