This is my fiances and my second marriage and we are debating if we really want a gift registry. We have everything we possibly need, but also know how couples like to bring gifts. I don't feel comfortable asking for money or doing what they call a money tree. i feel that is too tacky, but then again if I don't do a wedding registry we could end up with some off the wall gifts..I certainly don't want to be rude and would accept anything. What would a tactful way to do this be?
2007-02-01 09:16:37 · 11 answers · asked by countrymomv4 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you don't need gifts, then I recommend doing one of three things.
The first would be registering at a site like
http://www.justgive.org/
Register with several different charites so that everyone can be happy with what's offered.
The second would be to register at a site like
http://www.thebigday.com/?br=826
This way people can pay for your honeymoon or vacation rather than buy you traditional gifts.
The third would be to register someplace like Macy's or Target. Register for traditional stuff and then exchange it for store credit. Then you can use it to buy other non-registry things.
You are right that you can't ask for money and that a money tree or money dance is tacky. You are also right that when left to their own accords, people will buy you bizarre things and things that you'll never need - without a gift receipt. I think that *some* sort of registry is appropriate. Good luck to you in all this and congrats on your upcoming wedding and marriage! : )
2007-02-01 09:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you stated that you both don't really need anything specific, how about registering anyway at a common place such as Target, JCPenny, Wal-Mart, etc. just to give the guests a little help in deciding on gifts for you. You can never have too many neccessities such as towels, blankets, silverware, etc. Or you can put expensive pieces you normally would not buy on there...you might be surprised at how many people will shell out big bucks for weddings ( me and my mom are known to buy the expensive items on registries:) ). If you don't really want to be bothered with heading out into the stores and scanning like crazy, do it from the comfort of your home and computer. Many places (that have websites) allow you to do your registry online. I wish you well:)
2007-02-01 10:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by dream 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Register for only those things you might need or desire. A registry is a nice way for guests to pick out something they know you might like. Request gift cards also. You list doesn't have to be endless but you should be able to find some things you like.
2007-02-04 04:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont want gifts you can always pass the word that gifts are not necessary (throught the grape vine of course). If you don't have a registry, you will likely get money from most people.
2007-02-01 14:14:10 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy-of-Twins 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to register for your wedding. I agree with "Off to Mexico" about registering at charity web sites. You are not supposed to put anything on your invitations about gifts, whether it is "no gifts" type statement or "this is where we are registered". Registry information should be passed by word-of-mouth to your guests from your family or anyone who asks you if someone asks where you're registered. Congrats, and good luck!
2007-02-01 09:45:51 · answer #5 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a low-key wedding ceremony final summer season, and the common quantity gave the impression to be approximately $30-$40, with close kinfolk the two giving a greater advantageous quantity or helping with the countless wedding ceremony issues (like determining to purchase nutrition, or arranging for tables to be introduced in). in the event that they have been residing jointly for a whilst now, then they have possibly have been given all the better half and childrens issues they desire, so there is not any might desire to purchase a usual present, yet $50 caught interior a intense-high quality card may well be an magnificent, beneficiant present for somebody that is an intensive buddy. EDIT--I trust the submit above me- the place i'm placed at (a greater rural portion of southeastern Indiana) giving $one hundred and up at a marriage may well be loopy except you're, like she spoke of, loaded. i develop into shocked to get $50 from my travelers, tremendously because of the fact it develop into very small, and that i did no longer sign in in any respect. My funds presents ranged from $15 to $one hundred (from my grandparents), and that i gained quite a few present taking part in cards ranging in cost from $20 to $50. I gained some presents (the home equipment i discussed above, 2 candelholders, and a few photograph frames, all from distinctive human beings). some travelers left signed taking part in cards (without present coated), and a few travelers did no longer even go away that. I wasn't shocked in any respect via the small (or loss of) presents, yet i develop into VERY shocked as quickly as I opened taking part in cards that held $50 and up. perhaps those different posters are all from cities, or soemthing...
2016-11-02 02:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the process of planning our 2nd wedding as well...and like you, we REALLY don't need another coffee pot or set of towels!! LOL
BUT, we ARE planning a "modest" honeymoon/getaway. Some travel agencies now provide these little cards for you to include in with your invitation letting your guests know that monetary gifts towards the purpose of your honeymoon would be appreciated in lieu of actual "gifts". Your guests can send their "gift of money" directly to the travel agency, then they send you a "card" prior to your wedding to let list those who contributed, they don't list amounts-just the names so that you know who to thank...you'd have to check w/your local agency to see how they have it set up, I know it may be different from place to place.
IF you totally feel uncomfortable with the idea of receiving any gifts at all, you can simply add a notation on your invitation that "The pleasure of your company is the only gift we are asking for".....or something to that affect.....;-)
2007-02-01 09:39:58 · answer #7 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same 'issue' we're both well established from our 'previous' lives... why not ask for donations to a fave charity in leiu of gifts... this way you have resolved the gift question for your guests and won't get anything you don't like and it's classy to boot!!!
2007-02-01 09:24:29 · answer #8 · answered by thenakats 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do not need a gift registry only if you want one it dose not matter
2007-02-01 09:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by Candy L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Easy put on the invations no gifts please. But beaware some people will anyways and if they have to tell them gift cards will be best to like walmart or target where you will shop every week or so.
2007-02-01 09:25:31 · answer #10 · answered by tishniaeq069696 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋