My ex broke up with me a few months ago. I love her more than life itself and I know she loves me. We had some troubles and she just could not take it any more. I've been with a couple of girls since then, I even have a new GF. The girl is great! And I would never want to hurt her but I'm just not in love with her! I agreed to be with her one night I was quite drunk and mad at the world so I just wanted to show the whole world I can live without my ex. Now my ex has told me she made a mistake and that she wants to be with me again, she told me that she loves me, that the break up was a mistake! I'm 90% sure that she will hurt me again, but I love her, and I'm in love with her. It has not been a day that I did not think about her, and there's not been a day that I was really happy since we broke up! I'm not in love wiith my present GF even if she is great ( I even avoid sex as much as I can) and I know that would be the case with any other girl. What to do? P.S. sorry for my bad english
2007-02-01 09:07:40 · 14 answers · asked by justme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds like u had some strong feelings for ur ex girl so mayb yall should get back together it kinda like the saying if u love something n it comes back to u its urs and she wants to come back to u
2007-02-01 09:14:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a Mess!!! And if you don’t get this under control soon you are in for a bigger mess. You have two things going on here... And really it's a terrible thing when you think about the grand scheme. Someone is hurting you and you are in turn hurting someone else. What a cycle. One you need to exit out of ASAP.
You took another GF even though you knew you didn’t want to be with her>? Bad news. And bad Karma. You need to sit this one down and deal with this as a separate issue. IE don’t break up with her because your ex wants you back. Break up with her cause it's the right thing to do. tell her you are just not right for her. And do not make up some BS about wanting time. You need to make a clean and respectful break. Once that is done you can deal with the ex.
The Ex:
Listen to yourself... You already know she will hurt you again? Well then why consider it? Yeah I know You love her to death.. But ask yourself..does she really love you? Do you want to live everyday knowing that you are one day away from the end of that relationship? It sounds soo tempting now doesn't it. But living in fear of the end everyday is no day at the park. Cool this girl off by telling her that you are not ready for another go around.
Being respectful to both here and clearing away some time for yourself will put you in a better position to see where things stand in lets say a few months. I can promise you this, if you follow this advise by spring you won't want either girl.....
2007-02-01 17:18:14 · answer #2 · answered by ariesespo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mentioned that your ex girlfriend and you had troubles and that she could not take it anymore.You will have to consider this when making a decision. If you and your ex can first talk and see how it will be this time any different from the last time, then see what is said. Sound as if this relationship has brought you alot of pain and even though you love her you found relief when it was over.. Sounds complex to me. If you are willing to take the risk of maybe getting hurt again, then by all means go back to your ex. Sometimes love has risks. Good luck to you!
2007-02-01 17:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know I can so relate to what you are talking about because that just happened with me and my ex, the whole broke up a few months ago and wanting to work things out with him except I'm the one that got another boyfriend before i was acutally ready to move on. That guy had acutally became a very close friend of mine too, even after i broke up with him. But the only thing i suggest you do is if you really love your ex you need to get out of the relationship you are in now before you hurt her more in the future. Because believe me it will hurt her and it will hurt you. And I'm not saying go back with your ex right away, talk to her, see what you guys can do to make things better, take things slow don't just jump right back into it. Even if you have to be single while you try to work things out. And if you decide not to work things out with your ex dont get into another relationship till you know you don't love her or your feelings for her has died down because you will do things like advoid sex and whoever your with might do something to make you think of her and you dont want to hurt any one else including yourself.
I hope that all makes sense. If you would like to talk to me some more you can IM me at taytayjomar89 or email me at taytayjomar89@yahoo.com. Like I said I can relate because I am going threw something similar.
Good Luck!
2007-02-01 17:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by taytayjomar89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...first off....you are NOT being fair to your current girlfriend. You should end it if the feelings aren't there. Second, if your ex means THAT MUCH to you...then regardless of what anyone says on here...you are going to do what you want. If you want my personal advice...I would break it off with your current girl and stay single for a while. Your caught between a rock and a hard place right now....get yourself out of it before committing to anything. If your ex truly loves you...she'll wait for your answer in regards to getting back together. Don't make any rash decisions right now...you have a lot to think about. Good Luck.
2007-02-01 17:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by Miloree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to what you are going with. From the prospective of deciding NOT to give my old relationship another chance, I think you should do it. Not a day goes by that I don't regret it and wonder "what if"? I believe that if you love someone, you can't put enough energy into making it work. If it doesn't pan out this time, maybe it will the time after that? Of course, if faithfulness is an issue, don't put yourself through that pain over and over. But give it this shot. Love is a very strong feeling and it doesn't just die because you loose the energy to try. Good luck!
2007-02-01 17:12:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Break it off with the current g/f if your heart is truly not in it.
You're not doing this sweet lady any favors by staying when she deserves somebody who will feel about her the way you feel about your ex.
Date the ex after a reasonable amount of time goes by, but don't jump in head first right away.
Good foundations take time to build, (or rebuild).
2007-02-01 17:18:13 · answer #7 · answered by Cynthia D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure the ex will hurt you again I won't do it. This new girl sounds great just give her a chance.
2007-02-01 17:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by Redhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. I think that since you are so in love with your ex that it was a huge mistake trying to date the new girl (too soon). Although that girl hurt you once, I can tell that you are madly in love with her so I think that you should follow your heart..
2007-02-01 17:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by beauty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you think your gunna get hurt again then you have to decide whether its really worth it... but no matter what your decision you it sounds like you should break up with ur new gf. you dont love her and she'll just get more attached to you the longer you go out with her, and thats not really fair on her...
2007-02-01 17:14:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋