i was dumped with these words and they played in my head for weeks,my boyfriend wouldn't talk to me, then he told me he was deeply sorry then he stoped talking to me for 4 days then asked again for forgiveness saying he loved me then 2 days later he told me on msn he didn't feel the same anymore. what happened? how can you love someone one minute and not the next? he was the one who chased me,even his friends told me i was too good for him. its been 2 months and i haven't heard from him but the whole thing has left me confused i know he had family issues but i still don't understand, have you ever been dumped this way? or have you dumped someone with theses words? what happend why did you not feel the same??bored? person had changed? PLEASE HELP any ideas or stories to share,would help a lot thanks!
2007-02-01 09:06:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Feelings can change. Even if he did love you, maybe he found that it was more of a friend-love than a relationship-love. I say, learn from the experience and move on. You seem young, so enjoy your youth by meeting tons of people!
2007-02-01 09:09:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be all confused the confusion is all his!
Don't beat yourself up over this you will never work out where you went wrong or what your shortcomings were or what you could have said or done differently since you did none of these things wrong! You are the innocent party and your ego may feel it has taken a hit right now but don't let that hurt you no more cos you did nothing wrong!
In cases like this the shortcomings and should'a, could'a, would'a, routine is all in the court of the guy that treated you so badly! Forget him unless he wins the lottery and sends it all to you with a sorry note!
2007-02-01 09:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by keithanthony0169 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl: if it's been two months... don't you think you should MOVE ON? I believe you are very young so why bother to ask why did he do what he did if you know you wont get the answer that is going to make you feel better. we are not going to tell you to go and look for him and ask him to get back to you!!! it doesnt matter why he dumped you, the thing is that he did and that he hasnt called you in 60 days so chances are that he pretty much forgot about you. don't hurt yourself more and find someone else that treats you the way you deserve. i know you are hurt and that you love him but face the reality, he seems like he doesnt give a crap about you anymore so why do you want to keep wasting your time?
hugs
2007-02-01 09:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by chikis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this happened to u, sometimes guys get afraid of their feelings so they chose to run away from them. Sometimes there is another women in the picture and she's helping to confuse his feelings for u. Try not to feel to bad over the whole experience and let it teach u a lesson, I can't tell u what lesson that is only u can figure that out. You can chose to be supportive while he's going through his transition or dump him from your heart. Try to be strong and don't take his nonsense let him know that u are there 4 him but tell him u aren't a yo-yo.
2007-02-01 09:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by sweet p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, people don't fall out of love overnight. But it is a gradual thing. When it is finally over, you may break up. Maybe your guy loves you as a friend, but realizes now that he isn't "in love" with you, so he cut you loose (a favor...who wants to be with a guy who doesn't love you?). It's hard. Almost everyone has had a heartbreak, but in the end you will be stronger and have a better idea of the kind of guy you may want to marry someday. This guy IS sorry he hurt you. But he doesn't have the kind of love for you that you deserve and he knows it now. Trust that and move on.
2007-02-01 09:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you two aren't on the same level. He doesn't love you. you really need to just work yourself thru this and move on even though you don't want to hear that. There is someone else out there for you. Sometimes it is the chase that is exciting and when they get what they want the fun is all gone, no more excitement, I bet that he won't stop but you can't let it continue because it could go on for a long time.
2007-02-01 09:11:47 · answer #6 · answered by jojonjesse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change. Maybe he's just going in a different direction than you are. He could be bored, or interested in seeing other people, or a million other things.
Just to say one thing: (my opinion only) When people break up, there's a reason for it. Going back out with someone who you were with before is generally a bad idea, unless one of you or both did some major changing.
You'll get over it eventually. It just takes time.
2007-02-01 09:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Trisha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't take this on as being about you.
You didn't say how old you are, so it is a little difficult to respond in a meaningful way.
If you are a teenager, this is par for the course. Sorry about that.
If you are 20+, you are dealing with the wrong guy. He is jerking you around. You are letting him and then wallowing in it.
Go find yourself someone more deserving of you. Let this guy go afflict some other poor wretch.
2007-02-01 09:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No stories, sorry. But I agree with you, his behavior is really weird. My best guess is that the first time he stopped talking to you, he really did stop loving you. Maybe he found someone else? Or maybe he kept coming back for sex or because he was lonely? This is all pure speculation though. Anyway, you probably feel bad, but I don't see any indication of the breakup being anything to do with you.
2007-02-01 09:47:43 · answer #9 · answered by musiclover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been dumped this way but I have dumped someone and said this. I was really dumping him because I had met someone else and I just did not want to tell him the truth.
2007-02-01 09:11:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋