I have this friend who is acting like a total jerk! She dated a guy who called all her friends slluts and biitches and she continued to date him! After he broke up with her he wrote her a really bad hate letter and 2 days latter she asked him out again! She called one of her and my friends a hoee and when I asked her why she said "because she is one" adn hung up. She also said she would onley care about 2 of my friends if they were very very hurt or dieing. She lies to me constantly and can't keep a secret. And whenever we confront her she lies and walkes away and when we do forgive her she does the same thing over again exept worse! What should I do, please help this has been going on for months!
2007-02-01 09:02:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I THINK ITS TIME TO KICK HER TO THE CURB GIRLFRIEND. ENOUGH ALREADY HOW CAN U CONTINUE TO BE ASSOCIATED WITH SUCH A PERSON IT REFLECTS ON U THE TYPE OF FRIENDS U HAVE SO IS THE WAY U WANT TO BE VIEWED AS THE SAME AS HER? GET REAL LIFE IS SHORT AND REAL FRIENDS ARE VERY VERY VERY HARD TO COME BY MAKE ROOM FOR A REAL FRIEND DELETE HER
2007-02-01 09:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Special Edition 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a co-dependent relationship has ruined your friend. THE ONLY THING THAT WILL WORK 100%.
Sit her down and tell her that you will not hang out with her as long as she is with that guy. He has control issues, and she has dependency issues. That is a bad mix. After fully explaining why you don't want to be around her, then making it clear to her that she can have all of her friends back after she's done with that guy- stick with it. The longer you two don't talk, the more she will feel the pressure of his thumb on her head. That's when she can decide who is more important to her- herself or her boyfriend.
BUTTTTT make sure you make everything perfectly clear with her, or she will be insulted. She will probably be a bit upset when you all talk to her, but that's life.
2007-02-01 09:11:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this has been going on for MONTHS, chances are it's probably not just a phase and your friend is just... I hate to say it... a biitch. If she's lying to you and insulting you and your close friends, she has no respect for you. If she's continuing to go out with this guy after he sent her a hate letter, she has no respect for herself. She needs help... you need a better friend.
2007-02-01 09:10:37 · answer #3 · answered by Taylor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she's a friend. If all you get out of your friendship with her is misery why put yourself through it? Talk to her, if she is a real friend she will listen and regret that she has been acting that way but if she can't own up to her behavior maybe it would be better for you to distance yourself from the b.s.
2007-02-01 09:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by paula0005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you dont need to take that. Someone like that doesnt deserve good friends. They deserve a shrink, and maybe a nice reality check. Tell her how it is, shes acting like a huuuuge jerk. If she takes it seriously she might stop, if she doesnt take it seriously, drop her like a hot potato. Thats one MAJOR attitude no one needs to put up with.
2007-02-01 09:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont be friends with her!! She will have a kid befor you know it and then you can say that you should not havve done it it was your fault and see how she likes that
2007-02-01 09:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by emily v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not your friend. Get better friends. She's a lying ho.
2007-02-01 09:09:18 · answer #7 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋