his experiences in previous relationship stir up so many hurtful emotions in me- I feel jealous, betrayed and sometimes angry.I feel a sick to the stomach when I think about him having sex with his ex, or just simply being in love with her. It is particularly hard because I feel like I am experiencing so many 'firsts' with him (being that this is my first serious relationship), but he has already shared those experiences with HER. any advice?
2007-02-01 08:58:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
whatever his past know that YOU are his present and future!!!! nothing in the past can compare to that....
do not let insecurity ruin a good thing!!! It's all about you and him now ....your firsts ...but he's experienced so that should create excitement for you too. think of it as his past was just trade school for the career of his life...YOU!!
Enjoy everyday together and have a happy valentine's
2007-02-01 09:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mary S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy you really have it bad for him. I can tell. Well one thing you do not want to do is create pressure in the relationship by taking out this anger on him in different ways. Men do not take well to being pressured about their past. Do not make him feel like he has to out do himself by proving to you how much better your relationship is than the past one.
Instead communicate with him that you are very much in love with him (Cause you are I can tell). When you feel like you want to go crazy and tell him how Jealous you are feeling, tell him how happy you are to be in the relationship.
always remember this, She is the past for a reason, You are the Present, don't wish you to be anything else but that.
2007-02-01 09:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by ariesespo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...take into account that he is with YOU. Even though he may have had previous relationships, that shouldn't make you enjoy the "firsts" you two share together any less. Don't be jealous....he is not with the others...he is with YOU...take heart in that. You weren't betrayed because it never happened while he was with you...and please don't be angry because of his past relationships because it will soil the good relationship you may be building with him.
2007-02-01 09:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by Miloree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're needless to say insecure and are hoping white women are as jealous and captivated with you as you're of them. maximum of black human beings those days (no longer all in spite of the undeniable fact that) have this fixation with white human beings's seems together as white human beings do no longer think of roughly you as intensely in any respect. And lol @ y'all attempting to crap on women as an entire so which you would be able to sense greater valuable. adult men are notoriously jealous creatures yet only females are hated for this.
2016-11-23 21:11:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I was the same with one of my exes,
I was 16 and he was wonderful, after a few weeks those feelings went.
It's you he's with and after a while you will both discover other firsts together,
Perhaps think of things that he hasn't done with someone else,
How about your first picnic ???
How about your first walk on the beach ????
2007-02-01 09:01:04 · answer #5 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you feel a bit insecure and think you won't measure up to his X or you are not as special to him as she was. Just remember that she is an X for a reason and you need to focus on building up your own self-confidence and self-esteem.
2007-02-01 09:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you are going through. but you have to understand his past is his past. and you are his future! if you care about him. you have to realized that his past is what made him what he is today.. the person you care about. so just know that yes he had those experiencings with other people but just realized that doesn't take away from the experiences ya'll have... he is with you.. he wants to be with you. and those moments are still special to him and you just because he may have had a special moment with her!
2007-02-01 09:08:31 · answer #7 · answered by QueenT.Marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are with other people, it is a fact of life. You will have to deal with it forever. Tell him how you feel, maybe he can overemphasize the firsts you have with him. Ma ybe you can "outdo" her, try to make things romantic, special, and more memorable.
2007-02-01 09:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by moderndayhippie_420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a better girl than the ex or he would still be with her. Quit thinking so much or you'll drive him away for sure cuz of your jealousy !!
2007-02-01 09:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is done cannot be undone so remeber that and dont lose sleep over it. check it out, many happy couples now have been with others and are just finding their partners now. Enjoy your first with him and be happy he is with you.
2007-02-01 09:03:02 · answer #10 · answered by Christina L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋