A friend of mine is pregnant and she is giving the baby up. I want it, what do I do?

Question

My husband and I are unable to have children. The father to the child is gone without any way to find him and had three different names, none of them viable. My husband and I want this baby, but cannot afford the whole adoption procedure. I am told that my husband could voluntary acknowledge the baby as his own and we could get custody of that baby. Is this correct?

Answer 1

Question here is .. does your friend want you have this baby? Will this be a problem after the baby is born? You need to consult a lawyer and find out how to get the child legally. I know is some states she could sign over the rights to you. But I do not think this is the best thing. If she ever has any regrets about this she could take the child back. The only way to secure yourself as the parent is to legally adopt the child. Get some legal aid and see what steps you have to take. Since you are friends you may only have to pay court costs. I wish you alot of luck on this.. it is going to be a difficult journey.

Answer 2

Seek legal counsel.

There may be a way to get this child but think about the future and if your friend would suddenly want this child back after she gives birth. There has to be a legal agreement of custody before the child is born. Otherwise there can be complications that could cost you more than an adoption.

There is also always a trade off for a type of adoption like this.. like giving monetary support for the mother until the birth, sometimes in the form of insurance. Or some other form of compensation.

Again I stress, seek legal counsel. Any attorney will see you once for free to asses the situation then they charge. Shop around for attorneys and ask for advice from all.

Answer 3

If your friend is willing to allow you and your husband to adopt the baby, and bio dad is not around to object and have DNA done, it should not really be a big deal. Talk to an attorney in your area who does private, uncontested adoptions. A case like this should not be terribly expensive. But I would not do this thing with your husband saying it's his. Your friend could change her mind after she holds her bundle of joy the first time and decide to keep the baby, and the most your husband would get is visitation and paying child support for a kid that's not his - because she would have to be proven an unfit mother to take the child away completely.

Also, even if she signs adoption papers, many states have laws allowing the birth mom to change her mind within a certain period of time. All the more reason to talk to an attorney about what your rights would be in such a situation.

Answer 4

What you are proposing is illegal. I don't recommend him claiming he is the father of this child. If the biological father resurfaces somehow-this will be a mess (you never know)! Contact an adoption attorney, they can advise you how to finance the adoption. You will also need to start filing paperwork with the court and prepare for a homestudy. The goverment will give you an almost $11K tax credit for adopting. If she is your friend and has medical insurance, you may only have to pay legal fees. It may not be as expensive as you think.

Is your friend completely OK with you adopting the baby? Will it be too painful to see the baby with you at parties, gatherings,. etc? I know one woman who was going to let friends adopt the baby and changed her mind and opted for strangers-she said it was less painful that way.

Answer 5

i think you can have that baby.,
just talk to the mother (your friend)., if she really wants to give up her baby, and for her baby's future then she should let your husband to stand as her baby's father.,

just talk to her showing your good intention.,

ask God's guidance.,

don't loose hope.,

hope you'll be able to adopt that child.,
good luck.,
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