I'm going out with a 19 yo girl tomorrow... I'm 33. I have no idea what to talk to her about and how to relate. Before anybody starts to scream at me you should know I didn't ask her out, she asked me, well practically begged me for one date. So I agreed. I'm not pretending to be hating it... I'm flattered, but even when I was 19 myself I couldn't relate to people my age and now that I'm older I think it will be even more awkward, strange and boring.... I just want things to go smoothly, have some fun, and make sure that she has fun as well... so if anyone out ther has any ideas let me know. Thanks.
2007-02-01 08:55:12 · 16 answers · asked by Jim Z 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 18 and ive dated around with guys that were 10 years older than me before... i liked them because of how they treated me like i was their age. just talk about things that interest you and ask her questions to get to kno her... ask her what she likes to do, where she likes to go, etc. the normal thing any guy would do... just treat her the same way as you treat other girls
2007-02-01 09:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take one of your friends kids with you, they should get along fabulously!! Seriously, there's no way a 33 y/o man can tolerate a 19 y/o female and vice versa regardless of physical attraction. That is the reason you have nothing in common. Ask her about sports, politics, the war, cars, houses, or whatever you are interested in and you'll see what I mean. This girl is obviously looking for a father figure and if you need to view your mate as an equal you'll never find it there.
2007-02-01 09:07:39 · answer #2 · answered by Wes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can talk to her about anything. Find out what she's interested in and see if its anything you are interested in. Like talk about what kind of music you guys listen too, talk about movies. Get to know her just like you'd get to know any one else. There has to be a reason she asked you out. See if you can find that out.
I think you'd be surprised how much you could have in common with someone that young cause just because she is 19 doesn't mean she acts it. I'm 17 and I have people tell me all the time that I act much older and I get along with and have good friends that are years older than me.
If anything else and you can't think of anything to talk about or whatever just take her to a movie or something to where people can't talk.
Good Luck with your date!
2007-02-01 09:07:19 · answer #3 · answered by taytayjomar89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all if later on the date you find that you dont like here. then tell her thats the number one thing girls hate (to be lead on) no offence... ask her if she taking college courses or if she has any pets thats a conversation starter. be a good listener dont just keep rambling on about your life. at the end of the date if your not going to see a movie that day then ask her what movie she wanted to see that was in theaters. then surprise her on the next date with the tickets. if you like her. and dont get any alcholic beverges if you go out to eat. then she cant have any and she'll think your being rude. Be honest too. because if she finds out that bands like vanilla pops doesnt exist she'll be worried about bigger things that you might or might not have lied to her about.
2007-02-01 09:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch MTV for about 4 hours to prepare for the date. Once you are on the date, complain of how much you hate MTV, but you just watched it for 4 hours. She will totally relate. Also, tell her that you're 50 years old, and make sure she pays for the date since she asked YOU out.
2007-02-01 09:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well she must be mature if she begged you, an older man, for a date. Talk about things you like. Don't try to act like a 19 year old, because obviously she doesn't want you too
2007-02-01 09:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have anything in common? Do you like the same music or TV shows? What are her interests?
If you don't know anything about her then ask her favorites and go from there. Ask alot of questions and let her clue you in as to what she likes and what she thinks on different subjects.
Either you will hit it off or you won't...just relax and be yourself.
Because if you can't be yourself with someone then it doesn't matter what your ages are.
Good luck on the date! ;)
2007-02-01 09:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by Starfire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her how school went.
j/k...theres nothing wrong with it. when i was in the air force i dated someone that was in the army and he was 10 years older than me. just talk to her like a normal person. try not to remember her age. its just a number, right? talk to her like you would anyone your own age. what are your hobbies, how's work, blah...blah..blah. if you can do this for a few everything will warm up then the convo will flow naturally.
2007-02-01 09:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by portuguese_tease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People watch. Talk about people. Everyone can relate to people issues. You can talk about pet pieves. Dumb things people wear. Reasons why people become vegitarians.
People is the most interesting universal subject.
(Anyone who says "just be yourself" just wants 2 points.
2007-02-01 09:00:33 · answer #9 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk about stuff you would talk about with someone your age. she's obviously more mature than you think if she's asking old dudes out. she asked you out because he feels you'd be mature and she needs that instead of an immature guy her age.
2007-02-01 08:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋