Roughly two years ago, I moved to DC and began a career as a Legislative aid with the Institute for Legislative Action (ILA), a division of the NRA and an organization that is devoted to the protection of the individual right to bear arms, a right enshrined in the Second Amendment Constitutional Rights of all Americans.
While I have experienced a great deal of professional success, and have no intention of abandoning my career, or the fight to protect the Constitutional rights of Americans, I've noticed that many of the women in this city seem to loose interest in me after I answer one of their inquiries about the nature of my career.
I was wondering if I would experience more success if I either described my job in the vaguest terms, stating merely that I worked for a lobbyist organization and then describing it in more detail once I have established a connection with her or if women would feel that I was being dishonest.
2007-02-01 08:54:51 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I suspect your lack of success may be more location oriented than profession oriented. Either that, or they think NRA guys are wussies and prefer the GOA boys.
To find a mate, you'll have to be open about your passions to find someone who will appreciate them. There are some chicks that would want to smoke your pole the minute NRA came out of your mouth (dated at least one, actually), but most would not find it sexy.
If you're talking about picking up chicks in bars, you don't want to talk about your job in specific terms. Speak in general terms and don't go on about it. Make it sound it makes a contribution and is profitable, then immediately turn the focus of the conversation back to them. Like, " I work for a lobbying group dedicated to protecting the rights of Americans; specifically those that relate to the Second Amendment." A girl that will go home with you won't know about the Second Amendment.
I tell girls that I'm an environmental scientist that works for a small, but successful consulting firm. That could be true from a very specific and slightly uninformed point of view. It works. It keeps their eyes from glazing over before I can talk them into another shot.
Don't lie, just keep the details to yourself until she specifically asks for details.
2007-02-01 09:41:55 · answer #1 · answered by Nonny D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, make sure she is losing interest for the reason you are saying. A lot of men tend to talk a lot about themselves a lot (perhaps out of nervousness) and don't ask many questions on first dates.
If you are on a first date, ask her to talk about her career first. Ask her how she feels, what the drawbacks are, and what she would change if she could. Most people have something they don't like and would change about their job.
This sets the stage for you. When it is your turn, you can explain what you do, how much you like what you do, but fear that people may judge you or see you differently as a result. Talk about some interesting or crazy work stories. In other words, try not to dwell on the negative, but let her know you are sensitive to her and other peoples opinions.
I hope that helps.
2007-02-01 09:09:23 · answer #2 · answered by adian919 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I work as a legislative aide for a constitutional think tank." (It would be considered a think tank, right?) You might want to look specifically for conservative women to date — only they would be impressed by this. I disagree completely with the Second Amendment, but good for you for not abandoning your career.
2007-02-01 09:15:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The women who lose interest in you when they find out what you do are actually doing you a favor. There are few agonies as intense as dating and falling in love with a person truly hostile to your political or religious views.
Stay honest and be up front with the nature of your job. It's part of who you are.
Hold out for a woman with similar views, or at least with tolerance of your view.
In fact, there's a conservative dating website for those of us frustrated with only meeting people with whom mutual contempt is inevitable. You might want to google it.
2007-02-01 09:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by John D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your interests are to only bang her then just say you are a bus boy. If you have any interest in this woman then yes you do need to tell the truth. If you are so worried about a woman only chasing you for your career then you are simply flattering yourself or you just pick wrong women.
2007-02-01 08:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eventually if things work with you she will discover the truth and probably be more hurt that you hid it from her. Then all of the time and effort put into the relationship may have been for nothing. My advice is to be honest and open up front.
2007-02-01 08:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i admire astounding Eyes, i've got been listening to them lots those days. I had "Lifted or the story is in the Soil, save You Ear to the floor" on repeat this afternoon. i'm no longer likely prepared on MGMT, yet I even have enjoyed the few songs Tilly and the Wall that I even have heard. i admire David Bowie besides, whether i do no longer pay attention to him too lots.
2016-09-28 07:12:36 · answer #7 · answered by fryback 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like you're a vivisectionist or something. Go for the vague first then stand up for what you believe in.
Have you ever met Charlton Heston btw?
2007-02-01 09:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by lou b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most women would think you were obsessed with yourself if you went into detail at first... I think you should tell her what you do in the simplest and shortest way possible, and after you know her for longer, you should tell her more about it... it has nothing to do with "concealing" it, it just has to do with you going on and on about yourself.
2007-02-01 08:59:25 · answer #9 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be vague, identify yourself at a legislative aide engaged in administrative tasks. Leave it at that.
2007-02-01 09:01:51 · answer #10 · answered by Dane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋