I have a rather large past. with other boys I mean. Some were meaningful, some weren't. My current boyfriend has said he wants a girl that has been protective about herself and her body. (smart about who she gives it to) Unfortunatly thats not me. His most recent question was "What was going through my mind at the time?" I've said that I've changed my lifestyle. But he can't let is go. WHat now?
2007-02-01 08:51:49 · 10 answers · asked by sweet stuff000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he can't accept the mistakes that you've made, get rid of him. I've been there. When I met the guy I ended up marrying, I told him upfront that this is what I'd done, that was who I was, that's not who I am now, so deal with it.
Your present boyfriend probably feels like he doesn't matter because you've been with X amount of other guys, or whatever. Tell him that you're with him because you care about him, but you won't be treated like a wh*re. If he cares about you too, he'll try to understand.
2007-02-01 08:56:18 · answer #1 · answered by Trisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you never have to tell anyone about your past- it's in the past and shouldn't affect a new relationship with someone you didn't even know at the time.
Second, he can't make you feel bad about the past- he wasn't there, he doesn't know what the circumstances were, and everyone learns from mistakes...
If he can't let it go, tell him you'll have to move on without him.
Tell him it's not an issue anymore- move on or move out!
2007-02-01 08:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He has a purity complex, and will probably be one of those that is constantly suspicious of cheating.
There is nothing wrong with you doing what you did. NOTHING. Being protective of your body just means using protection and getting tested once in a while. That's it.
If he has a problem with your past, to hell with him.
2007-02-01 08:57:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the guy cant accept your past and put effort into the future, it may not be the best way to go. we all have pasts, and there is nothing you can do about it now. if cant accept the fact that you've changed your lifestyle, then it sounds like he isn't accepting you.
tell him that drooling on the past is not going to help the future. i hope everything works out .
2007-02-01 08:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by katherinebrown06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is he to judge you? I always tell people, if you've been tested for std's and you are honest and monogamous with your current partner, that's all they need to know. Your past is YOURS and it's really none of his business. If he makes you feel bad for what happened, tell him to get lost. You can't change your past, so just move forward. If he can't do that too, then he doesn't have much respect for you.
2007-02-01 09:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should like you for who you are. To me the person you are today was made by the person you WERE. Those expericences are what make you, you. If he doesn't want to accept that then you should move on.
2007-02-01 08:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by lizko2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on because he is a complete fool..Does he have a history? If so tell him to look in the mirror before he criticizes you.
2007-02-01 08:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk to him
if it doesnt improve
u need to leave him
i dont like telling this to no more
but that person will never get rid of that negative attitude
2007-02-01 08:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pretend your a bag of chips..and all the chips are gone except the crumbs at the bottom. but you want a full chip, your going to need a new bag of chips, i suggest honey ranch..
you two are going to need to break up, cause he wants chips, and not the guy named chip who lives down the street!!
booma boom
2007-02-01 09:04:59 · answer #9 · answered by neff8684 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't let it go then you break up with him.
2007-02-01 08:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋