Or are there some things a parent just can't accept? I'm not referring to murder or suicide, but things such as who their child has decided to date, what the child plans on doing with their life, if he/she is on drugs, etc. Should a parent always possess unconditional love and support for their children? I'd like to get some parents' answers on this.
2007-02-01 08:47:24 · 21 answers · asked by forever.devoted 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think unconditional love is a must. You may not agree as to decisions that your children make make, but as a parent I believe I would always have unconditional love and support for my child no matter what. If there was something I did not agree with I think that you could offer help and support in trying to change that if it were something wrong!
2007-02-01 08:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by kaelynnsmommy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am not yet a parent, hopefully sometime this month (38 wks preg), but from my upbringing and experiences with my own parents... unconditional love is very important. Of course for common sense things like bad behavior and drugs and all that, I agree there should be a little interferance and guidance. Dating - they should be supportive, but once again for common sense stuff like if my daughter was to bring home a druggie guy, abusive or something like that, then I would have every right to not accept it. My dad, very old fashioned and old-school Asian style, never liked my bf because he has tattoos and doesn't dress all "shirt and tie" kind of a thing and whatever. My dad had his unnecessary uncalled for comments about him. But now, my bf graduated college and we are able to take care of each other. Some parents are just like that. I think unconditional love and support allows children to be free and be themselves and to learn on their own which is very important.
2007-02-01 09:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by mommy.luv.jordyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional love has nothing to do with life choices or actions. It is what the word states...."unconditional". Not....if you do this or do that then I will love you but I will love you no matter what. Of course there are things a parent can not accept but that does not mean you stop loving them. Support is a seperate issue altogether. I can love my child but not support or condone certain actions or behaviors. If a parent can not love unconditionally then they should not be parents.
2007-02-01 09:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by CHERI S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes they should always have unconditoinal love for ALL of their children - even the more difficult ones. That does not mean they have to agree with, sanction or condone any behavior or attitudes their children may develop. They don't have to support them financially when they grow up. They don't have to support decisions they consider wrong, but they MUST always have unconditional love for their children - (even if those kids don't show much love for the parents.)
Parents shoiuld try to help children that go astray, but they need to put out the clear message to them "I will love you no matter what." The reason why they must do this is it can save their children's lives.
2007-02-01 09:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents for the most part do have unconditional love. Usually if a child is disowned for one of the reasons you listed, it's because the parent loves them too much to see them making bad decisions. Just because a parent doesn't support what your doing, doesn't mean they don't love you.
2007-02-01 08:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE ALWAYS, no matter what. What ever they do, even murder, suicide, drugs, you name it. I will always love my children. However I do believe in whats right is right and whats wrong is wrong. Meaning if i knew they committed a crime such as murder, I would turn them in to the police. Yes I'd even testify against them in court. My unconditional love would never wavier though. Their still my children, no matter what they chose to do. I am still their mom.
2007-02-01 19:24:52 · answer #6 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you love your child it is unconditional. Now just because you love them does not mean you have to approve or accept bad behaviors. As for what they decide to do with their life you offer guidance, suggestions and support. I wanted my oldest son to go to college, he didn't, I was disappointed but why waste your money or time on something they are not going to work at. As for dating, If you forbid them to see someone, that just makes it worse. Lay down a curfew and rules about behavior in your home and hope for the best. As for drugs, that is a tough love issue. Do not tolerate or accept it. If you have to call the law yourself, being in jail is better than dead. That's my opinion.
2007-02-01 09:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe that a parents love should be unconditional. Like my father used to say to me growing up "I still love you, I just don't like what you do"....
No matter what the children do, the one person they should be able to count on is their parents to at least love them, even if they don't support them in the decision they have made.
2007-02-01 08:51:57 · answer #8 · answered by Heather K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unconditional love means just that, unconditional. There may be things that my children do,and choices they will make that I will neither like or respect but I will never love them any less.
2007-02-01 11:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by blue_eyed_brat78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Man, those are some minor offenses. You can't love your child because of who they choose to date or what they want to do in life? If he/she is on drugs, parents should want to help their children. This just sounds bizarre to me. Ultimately, it is not really the parents business who their children date (unless they are harming them) or what they choose to do (unless it harms them). While yes, they are your children, they are their own people too. I want my children to be happy regardless of what they choose to do in life.
I watched a special on the Amish school shooting last night, and I think we could all learn something from those people: love. The Amish people truly practice and believe in unconditional love and forgiveness. They attended the shooter's funeral!!!
2007-02-01 08:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋