Would you let someone go....?

Question

My girlfriend, whom I love very much got accepted into grad school and a job along with the school....but she'll have to move overseas...she's told me she doesn't want to go and that'll she's decline both the job and school...I know this isn't what's best for her.

What's best for her is to leave...but I can't join her, I have grad school and a job here....a long distance relationship...lets face it...won't work...I've tried it, it doesn't work...it'll just drag us along for a bit until one of us realizes it...

I am listening to some sappy love song right now...and I think I have to break up with her....she won't go unless I do....I love her so much....someone tell me this is the right thing to do!!!

Maybe she'll come back....? I swear I am about to cry....

She's gonna ask why I want to break up with her....what do I say....:(

Answer 1

I know that you want to do what's best for her but my advice to you is do not let her go. That's the problem with us today we are too preoccupied with our jobs and we do not realize what is really important. I know that the job is very important but she can find a good job here near you. Don't let her go... We should never let go of things that are trully valuable to us!!!

Answer 2

I applaude you on putting your GF's interest before yours.

Long Distance Relationships rarely work, but in some cases, the bond gets stronger. If you feel that she must go overseas, tell her how you feel. She'll love you for putting her first.

Also, no more tears! Take off that sappy lovey dovey garbage and put on Kool and the Gang's "Celebrate," because you 2 have a great future ahead of yourselves.

Funny as this may sound, "Love Will Find A Way," and fate may play an great hand in the long run.

Answer 3

Really ... you two should break up.

I guess I shouldn't be the one to say this since I don' actually know either of you.

But seriously, if it's meant to be, you will end up together. I'm sure since its not a break up on bad term you'll stay in touch.

For her, this is a once in a lifetime oppurtunity and she needs to run with it. And you're right, long distance relationships don't work out well, especially overseas ones. It's going to cause mroe stress and then later on it will prolly end badly.

Just keep in touch. Tell her you'll always love her.

Answer 4

If you love someone, you always want what is best for them. If she applied for the job and school, then she wanted it to begin with. You can't make the decision that breaking up with her is the best thing for her and she can't decide to decline the opportunity out of a desire to hold on to you. You have to help her think it through, decide what she really wants and needs to do. Things like this will come up in your lives if you stay together and you have to learn to make decisions as a couple.

Answer 5

Jonathan Livingston Seagull said it best: "If you love someone, set them free. If they return, they're yours forever, if not, they never were."

You're looking at a hard choice, and honestly, it's a sign that you truly love her when you want to let her go to find her wings and do what is best for her. Long distance relationships can be hard, but they can work, too, if both people put an effort into them. Keep in touch, email and call often, and see each other whenever you can. Remember to keep your relationship alive for both of you and you can work things out until you can be together again.

Answer 6

Well what we regret later in life is carried with us to our grave. Do you think she will regret this if she doesn't go? Or is this just a whim thing? If this is something she truly has her heart set on then you cant stop her and you cant change your life either. If you all are really meant to be then you will be together when school is done. We never know what lurks around the corner for us. Remember that son by Garth Brooks? Thank God for unanswered prayers. You should listen to it.

Answer 7

Yes I done it before and I did cry for first time in my life at my 20's of age and I am 36 now and believe or not I don't regret it because I always wish him the best and I hope he still have the best...Yes is the right thing to do...You will move on trust me...It happend to me 16 years a go. Good luck!!!

Answer 8

it seems like you have a big problem here maybe you need to think about your future and decide if you want to be with your girl frind forever of if this is just a now thing. She is willing to sacrifice her future for you but the real question is are you willing to sacrifice yours for her. if you are botht in love and are willing to make sacrifices you should both try to find a happy medium. maybe you can both start grad school overseas and finish here.
Good Luck!!!!

Answer 9

Like they sometimes say if you love someone you have told let them go. I always believe if two people are meant to be they will be sooner or later. It might even by best if you say to her everything you have said in this question. You cannot just end it without explaining this to her you obviously mean soo much to her if she is willing to give it all up for you, and you sound like you really love her to. The best thing to do is listen to your heart and tell her exactley how your feel. Good luck

Answer 10

If you want it to, it can work long distance. My husband and I were dating for a year when he took a culinary internship in Massachusetts. He ended up staying there for almost 2 years. We were long distance (Cali to Mass) for the entire time. It took a lot of emails, sappy letters, and visits every 4 months, but we made it work. We've been married 7 years.