Like he is always mad when he comeshome and pick on us that we didn't do.
2007-02-01 08:24:27 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry that this is happening to you and your family. Anger is frequently the outward sign of depression. It might help you to know that he is not angry at you. What does your mom say about this situation? Is there a school counselor or teacher or someone at church you could talk to about this? If there is noone to intervene in your situation, then you need to do your best to avoid the situations that set your dad off. Are there clubs or sports at school that you could go out for that would keep you there longer? Are there friends' homes you could spend more time at, or church events?
2007-02-01 08:28:32 · answer #1 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is not just his house, it is all of your families home. Home is a place of peace and support and love. Your dad may have problems at work that he can't seem to leave there. It helps when my husband (who's job is very stressful) comes home and I give him my attention and ask him how his day was? he talks and vents about it and when he is done, I tell him that the problems at work are every ones fault there but his and they are luck to have him . Sometimes dad needs someone to take his side and know that the family always has his back. IF the first thing he hears when he walks in the door is everyone Else's issues, I'd want you to all go away too. So, be kinder and more understanding in that being dad is a hard job to handle and you are all his responsibility. You are only really responsible for you. How easy for you and how stressful for dad. See what I mean. Be more understanding.
Tracylyn S
2007-02-01 08:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though your Dad has some unresolved issues that really don't have anything to do with you, your Mom, or your siblings.
Talk to your Mom first and see what she says - if she has tried to talk to him, reason with him, or whatever.
If she can't find any consolation there, all of you need to try to find somewhere else to go - a friend's place, a shelter, or a church might be able to help you out.
You know the saying about "drastic means calls for drastic measures", well, maybe by all of you leaving, your Dad will realize that some counseling and work needs to be done to resolve this situation.
There is no need for any of you to have to put up with his behavior.
Just try to get some help - counselors, clergy, friends.
God Bless.
2007-02-01 10:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by Oenophile... (Lynn) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would say to guard your heart and mind. They say words can kill. Unfortunately if you take negativity in and accept it, it breeds negativity in you.
Please "know" that you are not the cause..even if he lashes out and blames you. Your worth is not determined by him. So don't let his words tear you down. Practice forgiveness in every situation. It is not easy but it will keep you from falling into the same Pit.
The Man has a problem and thinking the way he does is only going to make it worse. I saw it with my dad too... the same behavior. Sadly he ended up a lonely old man.
I pray he will see the light and find Jesus. Christ is the only way that he can find healing, happiness and restoration of true joy and peace.
2007-02-01 08:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Friend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father is either mentally ill or on drugs or alcohol and this is affecting him negatively. He has become an "abuser." You should not really be around him when he is like this. This will get worse and worse until he hurts (or kills) someone. What you can do is tell your favorite teacher or school counselor. I know you will think this is embarrassing, but being embarrassed is better than being dead or in the hospital badly injured. Tell your school counselor to get you some help. Social workers can help. Ask your mother to take you and leave him until he gets counseling himself and gets well. If she doesn't have the courage to go, you can go to a children's shelter without her. But your best bet is to tell your school counselor or your pastor to help you.
2007-02-01 08:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has to make some serious decisions and protect you and herself. Does she have a job (if not, is she qualified for something so she can work and support you). It is almost nothing you can do right now, just show your mom you love her and care for her. It seems to me that your dad might need some help, but you cannot help him by force. If your mom has living parents and siblings, they might be of great help. Just stop living in fear , even if your dad decides you should leave, life always offers opportunities for something good to happen, just do not lose your faith in good outcome.
2007-02-01 08:32:46 · answer #6 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to him and let him know how you feel. If you are afraid of your dad write him a letter and put is in his coat pocket so he can read while you are at school and then he can actually thinkg about some of the things he says and does and he may be calm by the time you get home and want to talk.
2007-02-01 08:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by mzladyj01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,you can hardly do anything.I was wondering how old you're,but when I thought about it I know that age doesn't matter.I'm 18 and I get frustrated when my father or mom are upset.I think that you just have to let mom handle this but you can Show her that you support her and you can try talking about this to other members of your family. Hope this helps and take care.
2007-02-01 08:31:19 · answer #8 · answered by lali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deserve this, sorry, but your father is acting like a mean, disturbed, irrational a.s.s. Have your mother call an attorney as soon as possible. Most give you a free half hour consultation. She needs to find out answers because you never know what your father's next move will be. Please follow through on this, don't be thrown out in the cold.
2007-02-01 08:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by Bud's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
H's taking his anger out on you ,because he has a problem he hasn't dealt with.Whatever the problem is he should sort it out and not create another one ,by his behaviour towards his family.People get themselves into right pickles by not dealing with problems and before long everyone is involved in the sorry mess. Hope it all works out ok for you.
2007-02-01 08:36:48 · answer #10 · answered by hogasnogie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋