I have had feeling for this guy that i am dating for five years but every time it gets to get realy serious i runaway and then that hurts him and now that i am ready to be with him for ever he is afraid that i am going to screw him over but i am done with all of that i just want to be with him and i want it to be just me and him and i am afraid that he is seeing some other girl and she is going to take him away from me just because i won't have sex with him and i have told him that i want to just not now i want to wait and i keep telling him over and over that i will not screw him over again and i will do anything to make him happy but i really don't know what else to do to get him to believe me when i say that i am not going to screw him over again because i have found myself in love with him
2007-02-01 08:11:40 · 10 answers · asked by dolphinluvr47 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please understand that we all operate on learning through experience. It may well be that you have matured and are ready to settle down, but you are faced with the period of time that your boyfriend is going to need to establish trust in you. Be patient and stick by your guns. And stop writing run-on sentences because they make it hard to understand what you mean!
2007-02-01 08:27:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"i am afraid that he is seeing some other girl and she is going to take him away from me just because i won't have sex with him"
I'm not going to beat around the bush or sugar coat anything in fear of "hurting your feelings."
Honestly, is this a matter of being in love with him, or you are giving in to the demand from him for sex? This is not healthy for you. I'm sorry to say, but you very well may have missed your window of opportunity to get back with him. If I was in his shoes when you did all of this "screwing over," Honestly, I wouldn't get back with you. I would move on to bigger and better.
You said, "i keep telling him over and over that i will not screw him over again and i will do anything to make him happy." How certain are you that you can do that and not screw him over once more and break his heart even more? I'm sorry, but most guys wouldn't go for that. It's best that you leave him alone to live his life, and you move on with yours.
One more thing. Don't give in to the pressures of sex. You have your standards. Stick to them.
2007-02-01 16:32:44 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you were playing games with his emotions and it has finally caught up with you and back fired. Guys sooner or later get tired of the games.Sounds as if he lost interest and is not willing to take the risk to trust you again. I feel you should not give in to having sex with him. Being that he is in the state of mind of hesitation in regards to having a relationship with you, then having sex with him would only leave you feeling used and will have him lose respect for you even further. . The only thing you could do, is leave things as they are, regain his respect by giving him time alone with no more manipulations to get him back. This will show him that you are not the immature person you have showed him to be in the past. You already apologised to him, now it is up to him if he indeed is willing to give the relationship another chance. By this, does not mean he can use this to manipulate you to have sex with him. Be very careful that you do not read mix signals from him regarding this. Hope I helped and best to you!
2007-02-01 16:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe that this will last and here's why. I get the feeling you are ready to commit to him just because he is now seeing someone else. You did not want him while he was all yours. Sounds like you've got some issues to work out before becoming seriously involved in any relationship whatsoever. You need to deal with that first or it will keep popping up in any other relationship that you have.
good luck
2007-02-01 16:22:04 · answer #4 · answered by Slim Shady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok like me and my bf of 3yrs you guys have issues that need to be resolved in order for ur relationship to work out just like my bf he does not trust you or your word to be honest for whatever reasons you may have given him in the past I find this horrible for I too have not been trusted even when i was telling the truth and chances are that it may not change you have to give him time and then talk but if he doesnt stop thinking your lying then this relationship is not able to be saved and you live and u learn so that the next guy you date and want to be with you know better what to do and what not to do. You sound like you have commitment issues and i suggest you really work on that you say you have but did you really? only you know not us or him meanwhile give it time it heals all wounds
2007-02-01 16:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by bkgrl718 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i m sorry to say
u mess up
cuz in the back of his house he s scare that u will do it again
u cant blame him
and its sucks that u ask if u re wasting ur time
shouldnt that guy be asking that question
he waited for u to finally get serious
but now the roles are reverse u r quick too leave
sorry let that guy be happy either be with him or not or let a nicer girl have him
2007-02-01 16:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, but don't have sex w/ him just because you don't want to loose him, if that's the reason why he's thinking of leaving you then forget him b/c he's not worth it. But do tell him what you have told us and he will hopefully understand. Good luck and stay strong no matter what. ;)
2007-02-01 16:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by m cheryl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him what you just told us..If you have a real connection, he will be able to see that you believe what you are saying and hopefuly that will be enough to keep both of you going strong...Congrats on 5years.
2007-02-01 16:15:14 · answer #8 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just relax go with the flow and let the relationship play out. Your compatibility may be apparent or it may not.
2007-02-01 16:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by The Master 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are already asking yourself that question then you have bigger issues to deal with. Nevermind will it last. What are you doing with him is more appropriate. Look into it.
2007-02-01 16:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by **brainy licious**J;-D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋