what do you think about telling white lies or small fibs to avoid unnecessary conflict with your partner?

Question

was just curious if anyone ever omits some things or misrepresents some things if they know it will cause problems with your partner....i.e....if a guy/girl drives you home from a party....would you say a friend drove you home.....just to avoid conflict....was just wondering if you think that is normal in a relationship or....should it be 100% honesty all of the time no matter what....was just curious what people are thinking....

Answer 1

If a girl friend told me that "a friend" drove her home, I would break up with her immediately. this causes conflict in a relationship and if she has to sneak around like that and is afraid of telling me details, she not the one for me , no.

Answer 2

Well its seems to me that people because of fear of the consequences of telling the truth. So in general, if truly bad would happen because of telling the truth or being honest, then a lie would have a positive result and be fine, because it would be for the greater good. Some people say you should always tell the truth, but if for example, if a lie would keep World War 3 from blasting off, and telling the truth would cause the big red button to be pushed, then a lie would be a good thing to do. However there are exeptions to this logic.

First of all, if you yourself are the cause of the truly bad thing, then telling the truth is the best course of action. You are in the wrong, and though you are afraid of the consequences of telling the truth, you should do so anyway because otherwise you being childish, disrespecting the person you are lying to, and basiclly just being a little punk.

Also, as general rule, you should always assume the lie will be found out, and this will tell you whether or not you should lie or not in the that situation. In the example of "getting a ride home from a girl, and lying about it" it is a BIG MISTAKE to lie about it. If your girl finds out, she will wonder why you were afraid to tell her about this other girl, and she'll think you are cheating, or at the very least know something is wrong with your relationship (and she'd be right). If you tell her without fear though, then she knows that she has nothing to fear from that girl, she'll think your relationship is strong and honest, and the benefits will happen automatically and not be subject to "if the lie is found out".

On the flip side, If your girl asks you if her jeans make her look fat, and you say everything she wears makes her look more beautiful than the last (even though they uhh, don't) then even though she knows your lieing through your teeth right away, she also knows that you care about her feelings, and about your relationship, and want her to be happy more than you want to give your (honest) oppinion, which says alot.

Basically, the most important things in life are more important than honesty, but most of the time they are in line with eachother.

Answer 3

Personally, I think 'little white lies' are only acceptable to spare someones feelings when it would be unnecessary to be hurtful (i.e. does this dress make me look fat?).

However, in a situation like you mention, there is no reason to tell a fib; honesty and straightforwardness are valuable - and anything less could bite you in the end.

If a person truly has reservations about telling their partner they received a ride home from a particular person - then there's a larger issue...perhaps trust or respect for a partner's concerns about certain people...and that type of issue should be addressed, and not with dishonesty.

Answer 4

I think everybody does it to some extent. And it's for that exact same reason, to avoid conflict. Being 100% honest is hard because so many people can't take that kind of brutal honesty. It all depends on the people.

Answer 5

No. I tell lies to my shoppers each and every time i flow to artwork, infront of my colleagues and with the understanding and approval of my boss. in case you disapprove then you particularly tell me a thank you to calm an 80 4 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous widow who's hysterical approximately getting abode because of the fact she had a baby the day gone by and her husband does not be attentive to a thank you to look after it. My reaction to her is that she is staying with us to get nicely, she would be waiting to no longer be any good to the toddler if she is going abode and collapses and that i've got sent a nurse to help her husband.

Answer 6

I'd rather deal with the conflict than to lie about it! Lying makes things worse, and it makes your partner less likely to trust you! When you're involved in a relationship, its best to be open and honest about it as much as possible. Telling the truth will be difficult and there will be consequences, but its best to be honest about it now than to make matters worse by lying about it!

Answer 7

I think little white lies are okay; things that wouldn't cause adversity if they ended up being discovered. And most people are not 100% ALL OF THE TIME ... we tell white lies every day.

Answer 8

I am the kind of person who prefers to use painful honesty. I only expect the same from other people. Honesty all the way.

Answer 9

A white lie is okay when your bald husband says, "do you like my shiny head with my one hair-locke wrapped around it?" and you say, "I love everything about you dear." To lie about someone bringing you home is dangerous since the truth could come out easily and you would be soooo busted.

Answer 10

I think if you tell enough of them you may drive your partner insane also you are violating their trust so there is no relationship. Finally once you realize you are albe to lie to them all the time you will finally use them up and drive them insane or to self termination.