my dad is going to move out! ={?

Question

im in 8th grade and it has alwayz been my mom n dad n little sis and me, and my mom and dad are alwayz mad at eachother and dont really talk as much and sunday my dad stayed w/ my cousin, he came by last night at he told me the story why he is going to move,he said cuz my mom is alwayz w/ her friends and she is not w/ us as much. i hate it and so does my dad but my mom doesnt seem to know dat its all cuz of her (well not all cuz of her but most of it)
so wut should i do? cuz i dont want my mom and dad to be apart! PLEZ ANYONE HELP!! =,{

Answer 1

There isn't anything you can do. This isn't your fault and it isn't your job to fix. Be honest with both of your parents and tell them how it really scares you to hear that your dad is moving out - that's all you can do.

Answer 2

I really am sorry to hear that. Please do not blame your mother for everything (it always takes two for marriage and for divorce). I know you are hurt and afraid, just try not to take sides and maybe you should talk to a counselor. Life sometimes is unjust, but I am sure that you are good child and you will have a good life despite this.Please do not blame yourself, or anyone else for this. This is beyond anyone's possibilities to fix, only your parents, if they take into consideration your feelings, and try hard to resolve the crisis, and maybe visit a marriage counselor, might do something...maybe...hopefully... Even if they decide to live separately and file for divorce, both of them are still going to be your dad and mom. I am a little bit confused why is your dad focusing all the blame and shame at your mom, I think that no one is to blame, both parents are responsible for such unhappy event. Good luck !

Answer 3

My daughter went through the same thing.It is a little different because her dad moved out to be with another woman but she felt totally confused and frustrated. She came to realize that she is better off having two parents who are happy in separate homes than us together and fighting all the time. Maybe your parents can get some marriage counseling and try to work it out. I wish you the best and try not to blame your parents too much.

Answer 4

You should never feel as though you have to do anything to keep your parents together...My father left my family when I was in 7th grade...now I'm a freshman in college...but thats besides the point...when my father left he said it was all b/c of my mother and really it was his own choice...just b/c your father is leaving doesnt mean that your parents love for you will change...so I wouldnt worry about it, too much...but if it makes you feel better maybe have them sit down with you and talk to them...tell them how everything thats going on is making you feel...
Good luck : ) and hope the advice helps

Answer 5

wow. um. yeah...

the problem with these situations is that neither one of them knows when to step back and look at what is going on.

it starts when one of them does something the other doesn't like. if one of them tries to reason with the other, then they both start going off on each-other, and just bicker and argue and never try to come up with a solution. they don't sit down and talk about it like mature adults.

say mom stays out late and never tells dad. now dad's worried because he's not sure if she's been killed, or kidnapped, or having an affair. so he starts getting spastic when she comes home. she doesn't like it and starts yelling at him. now he's worried and hurt, so he starts yelling back. it goes on and on, and this could havebeen resolved by simply making a two-way rule that says they both must call the other if their going to be out late.

now they're both angry and the anger just soaks in and sits inside both of them. and next time around, since they're both angry, the arguing starts up quicker.


the only thing that will (hopefully) bring them ack to their sences is to talk about what they do, how it affects the other, and how to resolve it, without acting like four-year-olds.


the only thing that would help them is therapy. they need to learn how to coexsist, and how to make not themselves, but the other person happy.

But only they can chose what they're going to do.
sorry kiddo. i hope things get better.

Answer 6

Be open with your mom and dad and tell them how u feel about all that is going on.Dont wait around to start talking about it,approch both of them hopefully they will be in the same room at the time and they will be able to look at each other and see how all of this is affecting you and your sister.Comfort your sister,and let your sister comfort you.

Answer 7

Sorry honey, this is something that your parents will have to work out. It has nothing to do with you, I am sure they both love you. Sometimes adults can not get along anymore and it's best if one moves out to stop the yelling and fighting that is going on in your house. You can talk to your parents about your worries, but you will have to leave the rest up to them.

Answer 8

There isn't anything you can do.

Your father should not put your mother down and vice versa. They shouldn't involve you in their disputes, it's not your fault.

Remember, one thing though: There is always 2 sides to a medal (his - hers - and then the truth)......

Good Luck, My heart goes out to you.

Answer 9

Sorry.....Your situation stinks but honestly I have NEVER seen a break up that was not shared responsibility between the both parties.



Meaning both of your parents have their own problems! It will never be all one persons fault.

Answer 10

you really should not get in the mix of things like this..... just way it out and see if your mother realizes it when your father actually moves out....
good luck!