I am a single parent of a 20 mth old, and my child's father is not actively involved in her (our) lives. However, his father calls sometimes and just recently he asked me to assist him on a project. Painfully, I want to reject him because I feel that if he can't get his son to be a man and be more involved in his grandchild's life, then he need not to be contacting me for anything else. Furthermore, I don't want my daughter to have anything to do with his family simply because I don't feel that they have her best interest. Is this 'unfair' on my end?
Thanks.
2007-02-01 08:02:39 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your child's father needs to start taking full responsibilities for his actions and stop being a jerk about it! His parents are doing the right thing by continuing to stay actively involved in your child's life! His father has done his part by raising his son to do the right thing and make better decisions, but he chose to travel down on the wrong side of the road! Your daughter deserves to have positive people in her life and you shouldn't cut off his family!
2007-02-01 08:09:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience i would say if you can make an agreement with the grandparents to continue visitation i would strongly suggest it. It is not the grandparents fault that the father did not live up to his responsibilities. I know in my own life i have a child out there and i did not know that i did that choice was taken away from me, and my whole family has had to pay the price of that choice. The worst of all my daughter will never know what a loving family can do for you as you grow up.
You will benefit from it and so will your daughter... she will learn by example so teach her well and it will all ways bring great rewards later.
2007-02-01 08:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by Lars E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think of it on an unselfish level. Is it because they are not good influences on the child or is it because you feel hurt. Your child may resent the fact that they had no contact with more family. The father may come around when he sees that his family is still willing to be in the childs life. And if not, his loss. One of my best friends is going threw that now and is 20 years old. She never knew the rest of her family becuase of her mom and sees now how much she has missed. Especially when they told her that they tried to be in her life.
2007-02-01 08:10:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not unfair. My husband & I have a 14month old son, Lane. My husband also has a 4 yr old son, Tommy, w/ another women. My husbands parents call Tommys mom to get him all the time. I made it very clear to them that if my husband was not being the man he needed to be to my son that they would not see my son at all. My relationship with my husband is very rocky to say the least. u need to think about ur child. not ur childs grandparents. Keep ur head up...it'll work itself out.
2007-02-02 02:23:25 · answer #4 · answered by lanesmommy05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids have a great relationship with their fathers family even though he wanted not much to do with them. They are family and you must accept that. They cannot make your ex want to be involved, but they obviously want to and should be able to. It's family. Your child might resent the fact that their relatives wanted to be involved with them and you wouldnt let them.
2007-02-01 08:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need to let your child be involved in there live;s, let the child have the right to get to know the grandparent's.It is hard to let go but are you really thinking about your child or your own fear's? children need there grandparents to help them grow to show them what it is like to have someone else specail in there live's.You can keep your guard up and watch for sighn's of wrong doing but don't depribe your child his or her right to know the grandparents.
2007-02-01 08:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by roady_cat_elgo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A criminal expert supply you the 1st hour or 0.5 hour loose. See in case you are able to not require a dna try. a minimum of you might have the reality out to all events without excuses. I very virtually think of a guy like which could pay or his mothers and fathers. have not they earned it?
2016-10-16 10:18:17 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ITS NOT UNFAIR
my brother has a diffrentd dad child and my mom says he didint want a family and she said it probley was the best desion hes ever made because shes happly married and s happy.
say no if hes a bad example
2007-02-01 08:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you do whats best for the child not you.Keep them away,they might go to court
2007-02-01 09:55:27 · answer #9 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They want to be part of her life that is great, let them in
2007-02-01 08:06:41 · answer #10 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋