Okay so I am getting married and I AM SOOOOOOO EXCITED!!! But anyway...does anyone have any tips on how NOT to be nervous and how to make the big day go as smooth as possible??? I want to get pregnant right away...is that bad?? I've wanted this for so long, I just want a baby....Im so happy and I know I shouldnt rush things I just feel like now is the right time....!!!!
2007-02-01 07:59:54 · 13 answers · asked by ~Jamaica~ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Thanks so much! Whoever said to wait to have a baby...your right...I am rushing into it a little fast...I have a monkey...thats enough for right now...thanks for the help you guys rock!!!!
2007-02-01 08:17:02 · update #1
Congratulations!!! You should definitely jot down ideas of what you want for your wedding and other ideas. I wouldn't want to get pregnant right away, I would want to enjoy time with my husband before having any kids. You two are still learning about each other and growing together-you need time to yourselves. When you have children it's non-stop after that. Enjoy him first and then decide when you two should have babies. Have you talked to him?
2007-02-01 08:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by determined 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!! You should be excited - it's a very, very exciting time.
The best advice I can give you when you're planning your wedding is to not stress over it. A good marriage is what's important, not a great wedding. You will have fun no matter what happens! Try not to get too upset over things like centerpieces, etc. - no one will remember them, anyway. What people WILL remember is good food, good music, good times at your reception, how gorgeous you looked and how happy you & your new husband looked. That's all. Have a party. Seriously - it's the biggest party where you're the guest of honor you'll ever have!
As for getting pregnant - there's a lot to consider and marriage is an adjustment. If you can wait, let you and your new hubby get used to each other before you jump into babies, but if it happens, it happens!!
All the best to you!
2007-02-01 08:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CoNgRadUlAtIoNs on your wedding engagement! I am so happy for you! Honestly... I don't think your rushing into anything. Its good that you want to get married first, then have a baby. (Thats the way it should be). Just make sure you are stable enough to have the "fairy-tale" life! Talk to your fiance' about how the both of you feel, and get a clear understanding of what it is you both want out the relationship. Try not to worry so much! Good Luck
2007-02-01 11:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by CUTIE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your marrage will be in a lot of trouble and I'll share why:
1. You seem very immature. I could be wrong, but based on this post, I don't think so.
2. You come out and say "...I just want a baby". It sounds like you are getting married for the wrong reason.
3. You sound excited about getting married, having a baby, your happiness...but no where do you say anything about the man you're marrying.
Calm down. Collect yourself. Then ask yourself if you are getting married:
a) because I have always dreamed of being married
b) I want a baby
c) I don't really know
d) I found a great man who loves me and I want to spend my life with him.
Theres only 1 correct answer.
2007-02-01 08:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st question...you are goin to have some kind of nervousness on the big day. (i was shaking and crying at the same time) it all depends on how well you can handle your nerves.
2nd....do not get pregnant right away. i say wait at least a year before trying to conceive. that way you have everything from the wedding taken care of and you can get settled in your home together. it takes time to get the thank you cards out, exchange gifts you go but didn't need, consolidate your bills, homes, furniture...etc. take the first year to do that and then go into the baby making business
2007-02-01 08:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats!
Just a sincere word of advice: Don;t get pregnant right away, enjoy marriage without children first, or else, he will join the club of men complaining that as soon they got married the s ex stopped and that the relationship changed etc.
Again, experience marriage with your spouse for a year, and plan for a baby together later on.
Good luck
2007-02-01 08:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should be very excited....I was engaged in April and I am still excited about my wedding. But, you have A LOT of planning and organizing in your future, so try your best to RELAX.
You're getting married, you're going to be with this man for the rest of your life, you can wait until after the honeymoon to get pregnant!
2007-02-01 08:53:37 · answer #7 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sure-fire way to cut down on nervousness and stress is to have a small informal wedding.
I don't see why not have a baby if this is what you want - unless your husband disagrees. If both of you are all for it - why wait? My husband and I are "waiting" to have kids, but that's because I'm dragging it out - I have NO desire to have children... It would really be nice if I *wanted* to have them, but it's looking more and more like I will have to have kids without actually wanting to do so - for various practical reasons.
Congratulations, and best wishes!
2007-02-01 08:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What Aspasia said was perfect. I'm going to quote it: "The status of your hymen is private medical information. Nice girls don't go around advertising it, and nice people don't speculate about it. Wear whatever colours you like, and if anyone "gets the wrong idea" they can very well keep their evil thoughts to themselves." If I could I would embroider it on throw pillows for you. I wish I could give that poster 100 thumbs-up. You won't be requiring your guests to dress in ways meant to advertise their sexual pasts, nor yet will your husband. Why should you, or any bride, be required or expected to so so? You dress yourself to celebrate your wedding. If a particular dress makes you feel happy, and so that much better able to celebrate this most joyful and solemn of occasions, then it is the right dress - be it white with black trim, or black with white trim or deep scarlet, or royal blue, or any other color you please. People will think of you what they will, regardless of what you wear. The tradition of wearing white as a wedding dress is relatively recent, within the last two hundred years - and it began as a way for rich brides to imitate a queen, rather than as a way to proclaim themselves sexually pure. Anyone who says a single word to you on the topic of your dress possibly reflecting your past, you say this to them: "Wow, that was really rude. You must be so embarrassed." Since you are likely the sort of person to really care what people think, I recommend that you practice saying that, so that you can say in a really sincere, sympathetic tone of voice, like you were saying it to your best friend after she burped really loudly in the middle of a business meeting, and then got the hairy eyeball from the president of her company.
2016-05-24 02:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Congrats...
Well nervousness will be there but then u know ur fiancee or shd i say, ur husband... m sure must be knowing wat he likes and wat he doesn't.. so jst be confident and head for the D day...
see you'll be nervous and nothing can be done except jst be confident and dnt show ur nervousness to ur guy...
and about having a child ASAP... well dear abt that u mst talk to him first... u mst know if he's ready for another responsibility so soon or no... and then after deciding only u guys must take any decision...
Congrats once again and
All The Best for your Married Life...
:)
2007-02-01 08:23:16 · answer #10 · answered by curious_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋