I am in my mid 30's now. My mother always treated me like a kid. Even now she treats me like one. She was never encouraging me. She always thought the negative and worst of everything. She felt I couldn't do things right or on my own. So I wasn't confident enough about things I did. When I was 13 my mother felt I couldn't take a shower on my own. So my father used to help me with take a shower. When I was growing up my sis & I shared a room. One day she decided she wanted to sleep in moms room with mom & I sleep in the other room with dad. Dad always used to tease me alot. I was his pet. I got upset with my dad for teasing me all the time so I told him to stop out loud. Then I heard my mom say to my sis look at those two like Romeo and Juliet. I still remember it now. I wasn't even allowed to wear a bra until I was sixteen until an aunt said I need to wear one because I am going to high school. I live with mom now & sleep in my dead fathers bed in the same room with mom.
2007-02-01 07:58:31 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I am getting married soon & my mom still controls me. I get night mares and bad dreams almost every night & wake up in the middle of the night. Is it because I am sleeping in my fathers bed. I wanted to move out my mothers house a month early & live in the new place where I will be living after I get married. The thing is my fincee will not be living there with me. I will be living there alone. Mother things that's a bad idea since people will misunderstand that I will be shaking up with him before marriage. I wanted to move out of my mothers house so I won't get nightmares anymore. But I don't know what do anymore because my mother says no to everything. Even when I was dating my fincee' she was seeking marriage proposal for me & wanted me to marry the man she picked even though they were not good for me. How do I deal with my mother?
2007-02-01 08:06:52 · update #1
You are a victim of some sick parenting and I hope that you understand that dad helping you shower at 13 is abuse. I would never let my kids spend any time alone with your mother. If you have to sell everything you own in the world you need to get as far away from your mom as you can. She has assisted your father in abusing you and that is not forgivable.
Hope you find so real peace in your life
Tracylyn S
2007-02-01 08:10:47 · answer #1 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that's not normal. Find a job or a guy and get out of that house.
Don't bullsh't yourself. Your mother only has as much control over you as you LET her. Tell your fiancee what's going on and move into the new place.
You're in your mid 30's. You're an adult. You don't have to listen to your mother anymore.
2007-02-01 16:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by Gary W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont know why but you sound like some girl living in the stone age, I cant even think of any girl at your age living with her mom, if i am not mistaken your also a virgin! you need to talk a long trip out of your mamas house, just open the door and keep walking, i doubt you can drive...walk away from this prison your living in go out and find your lost life...good luck.
2007-02-01 16:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by Louy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a very wired mind. Going for a fiction award of some kind?
2007-02-01 16:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously, you need to move out and get your own place. you are grown up, act like it and don't let your mom tell you otherwise
2007-02-01 16:02:37 · answer #5 · answered by Civilian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um yes
2007-02-01 16:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by Dr.DoSoLittle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this is true go get some help
mom should too
2007-02-01 16:04:05 · answer #7 · answered by zachsgrammy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah that is quite weired like
2007-02-01 16:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to do whatever you can to move as soon as you can.
2007-02-01 16:02:16 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell here
2007-02-01 16:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋