Major social anxiety?

Question

I mean even when chicks are hitting on me I cant find the nerve to ask them out. Please help me?

Answer 1

Probably more fear of rejection than anything..you just have to find your "groove" hint around first to see where they're at or ask casually in a group setting like "my friends and I are going for coffee Friday would you like to come?" at least that way the rejection is more dispersed kindof.
If you're getting out where they can hit on you it probably isn't really social anxiety..or you would just stay home.
Have confidence in yourself, it will show through, and that always makes people more interested.
My parents used to always say "the worst thing a person can say is NO.."
Not the worst thing in the world..and most likely if they're hitting on you, they'll say yes anyway!
Hang in there you'll get it!

Answer 2

Let me point out, first, that you don't necessarily need a sexual or bf/gf relationship with a female to feel satisfied in your life. I know your probably like: "whatever dude, I just want some pu$$y", and most people do. But again, you seriously don't need it unless you are interested in reproducing. You see, you are missing those feelings of extreme self-confidence and intensity, and you are unable to carry those feelings with you throughout your daily routine. You want that feeling of social relaxation, especially with women. The good news is that you don't need a female to give you these intense feelings, they are already in side of you.

I was pretty much in the same position as the previous poster, Christy, when I was a kid. The difference between me and that girl, is that I have the characteristics of a champion, she does not. Sure, you can go to your doctor and ask him to prescribe you some dope that you will be required to consume on a daily basis for years to come, if not the rest of your existence. Or, you can face life like the champion you already are, by not drugging yourself up everyday.

The social anxiety that you have could be rooted in many different things. It could even be linked to your diet, which means that something your consuming could be intensifying your anxiety; possibly, artificial sweeteners or processed sugars. That is just a guess. My advice to you is that you have way too much negative energy trapped inside of yourself that you need to express. This is why sports and extra curricular activities are recommended for children, because it helps the child get out that bad energy. I'm assuming that you are in your teens or early twenties.

I highly recommend joining the high school football team, a boxing gym, a good martial arts dojo, a yoga class, or something similar. The best one, in my oppinion, would be a good martial arts dojo. You start to build self-confidence when you watch yourself do things that you didn't know you could do. When you develop the attributes that help you do excellent martial art techniques, you will continue to build self-confidence and you will also start to get that negative energy out. A good teacher will also be watching you and constantly giving you positive feedback, and if you ask him, he will give you excellent answers to your questions as well.

Then after some dedicated training, guess what happens? Girls hit on you even more, but guess what. You have developed the skills of relaxation and self-confidence, and this time, you can hit on them back(If you feel like they are worth your time).

Or, like I said, you can just dope yourself up before talking to them.

Answer 3

Not sure this works for anybody but me, but I noticed when I haven't eaten in a while I get more nervous in socially uncomfortable situations. If I ate a big meal right before I don't get so bad. I'm sure it's got something to do with chemicals/hormones my brain is or isn't releasing. All I know is, it works for me.

Answer 4

OOOHHHH, hun I feel so bad for you!!! I'm so sorry you get this way! I think if you went to some counseling they might put you on some "Relaxer's" to relax you around the whole "Social Scene" you know..... I had that problem, many years ago....I was painfully shy, and just didn't like crowds of people, or even small groups of my own friends...I always preferred to be around them one at a time, you know.... But, I was never on medication for it, in those days.......Now adays I am, however.... But, alot of my anxiety is caused from my "Horribly Abusive Childhood" being done to my sister & I in a "Group situation" (we had a very large family), lots of step sisters, and there were four of us, so 7 kids all together, and we were the youngest of the 7.. and our step-mother used to beat us on a daily basis, and even tried to kill my sister & I twice!! I kid you NOT!!! If what she did in those days, were done today, she'd be in prison for life!!! That's how abusive she was to us, and sometimes in front of the whole family!! Which was not only humiliating, but scary....And because of this my sister & I as adults now, have certain issues, stemmed from her abuse on us, as children.... We analyzed it years later,why she always targeted us, over the rest of the children, and figured it was because we favored our father's EX-wife!! And so because we looked so much like our natural mom, she saw his EX, in us everyday, and punished us for looking like her!!! How sad is that?!!! My suggestion to you, hun, would be to definately go down and make an appointment with "Mental Health" and see if they will see you , and allow you to make an appointment with a counselor, because you dont want to be a prisoner to your own emotions all of your life, you know..... That's why I'm on medicine.....I not only have anxiety, but depression too.....So look them up on Yahoo's Yellow Pages, and jot down the phone number and ask them if you can get seen....I do believe its free...The medication you may have to either pay for, or if you have insurance they will pay for it..... Dont be embarrassed for going to a "Shrink" !!! More people go to them then you think, at young ages, too!!! Its apart of life, and their only there to help us, you know!! Good Luck, to you hun!!! Hope this all gets resolved for you, soon!! Smile, things will get better if you make that phone call, I promise you!!!

Answer 5

Do something or other you can get up the nerve to do, and keep doing it until you're pretty comfortable with it. Then try something a little harder and so on and so on.