Mine doesnt, well, he offered a while ago to take me away for a few days but thats it. We never go out much anywhere, hes very busy, but i cant help feeling there should be more romance. We're only 17, so i guess it isnt too much of a serious thing we've got but i certainly want it to last. We just go to each other's house and talk, listen to music and cuddle, occasionally having sex. Should i offer to go out somewhere? or should i leave that to him?
2007-02-01 07:53:21 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think im a little scared about talking to him about it, im generally pretty shy anyway about my feelings. I just want to know he cares...i sometimes feel i do alot of the work.
2007-02-01 08:05:47 · update #1
I did actually say to him not long ago we should go out more, and he said 'why?', what does that tell me?
2007-02-01 08:10:07 · update #2
Get a new boy. He sounds er, not the type.
2007-02-01 07:55:47 · answer #1 · answered by K. Marx iii 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a happily married man I can tell you that dating is very important. My wife and I take time away from our daily lives once a week to go out and enjoy eachothers comany at least once a week. It prevents boredom and resentment. It also helps if you have the same interests--that way you are both having fun on outings. You may need to suggest a date, but let him think it was his idea when it happens; this sounds stupid but the male ego is a fragile thing.
2007-02-01 07:59:44 · answer #2 · answered by Tom H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is about doing what you like and spending time together. When my husband and I were dating, we spent a lot of time at someone's house watching movies, playing poker at friend's houses. We even enjoyed just sharing time while doing our homework. Going out feels special, but it doesn't always have to be glamorous or expensive to be fun. Go to a concert now and then. Go to the lake or skiing, or whatever you enjoy. Teach each other how to do things you enjoy that the other person has never done. Relax. It will come naturally. Just enjoy the time together, whatever you're doing!
2007-02-01 07:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by huntingrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask him out and take him out it would show him that you care a lot about him. But i mean having a boyfriend doesn't mean he is going to take you out alot. YOu should savor the time you spent together thats all that matters. Every girl desires for a lot of romance from someone they care deeply about but everyone including me has to understand every guy loves differently and trying to make someone you care about more romantic shows that you don't really care about them too much since you want them to change for or sellfish reasons. I'm not saying this aobut you becasue I have no factual evidence aobut anything that has to do with you or your boyfirend. I'm just saying this from my past experiences and in general.
2007-02-01 08:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by dm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my girlfriend are much the same, and i have to admit i prefer getting a dvd and a pizza or just simply her company to going out for drinks all the time etc. The way i see it, spending your time talking, listening to music and cuddling is strengthening your relationship much more than going to the cinema or out on dates-thats the way it went with me and my girlfriend. If you really want to go out together though, just suggest somewhere and i'm sure your boyfriend wont object. Hope this helps.
2007-02-01 08:02:08 · answer #5 · answered by mallybb298 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends should do what they can easily afford to do with girlfriends. With everyone these days there is always so much more month left after the check is gone...... Listening to music and cuddling is great. Play a game that will make you smarter like scrabble. Enjoy
2007-02-01 08:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship sounds a litle like mines. My bf and I are very busy right now but every chance we get we go out, well he takes me out. Sometimes we stay in the house talk, cudle and occasionally have sex. But it doesnt bother neither one of us because right now were both in a process of getting out of our parents house and into our own. So it will only work out for the better.
But enough about me....if you feel you need more romance in ur relationship talk to him about it. If you dont it will only make the situation worst and ur feelings will get involved.
Good luck sweetheat!
2007-02-01 08:01:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tbaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not important. It is most important that he pays attention to you. Not every guy can afford the time or the money to take his girl out as much as he or she would like. My boyfriend is 18 and I am 20, and we go out maybe once a month at the most, to the movies or dinner. We both have school and he works also. If it is important to you, then maybe you can discuss going out every other week, and agree to set aside certain days for it. If he cares about you, then he will agree.
2007-02-01 08:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by pan2fly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that instead of going to eachothers houses u guys should plan a day or night out. its always good to go out, it doesnt have to be a big thing but after a while it will be just "blah". u need something else going on besides the usual. and u should definetly offer. guys are dumb and dont get it/ wont do it on their own. theyre too slow. u gotta take the initiative.
2007-02-01 07:58:29 · answer #9 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. Remind him on how much you want to spend some time with him by taking a time out from his schedule so he can be with you! I'm in the same situation myself, because my boyfriend and I have very busy schedules and we barely spend time with each other. That decision is something for the both of you to decide. Good luck!
2007-02-01 07:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live with my boyfriend so we're always together but we have saturdays as date day which means a movie and dinner or whatever we want like that.
your bf could be low on cash so you should offer to take him out and see if that helps....
if all else fails, you should rent some movies and make a night or weekend of cuddling up and watching movies!
2007-02-01 07:57:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋