PLEASE SOMEONE ANSWER!!! Should I leave him???

Question

Okay, my boyfriend and I got into this huge fight about me flirting with other guys, and how he doesn't like it. It's all in he's head! I don't go around flirting with guys and if a guy happens to flirt with me (which happens every time we go out!) it's not like I can just get up leave. I mean what's wrong with a little flirting? Anyway He was really angry with me and I was extremely pissed because he was making a big deal out of nothing. So in the middle of our augment I called him a son of a *****. He yelled, "Don't talk about my mother! Take it back now." I said "NOO." When I said he was a son of a ***** I didn't literally mean that, however that was how he took it. The next thing I know he's on the sofa pulling me over his lap, pulling up my skirt (I was to shocked to even fight back!), and spanking me really hard! It hurt really, really bad. I started to cry and he stopped, telling me he was very sorry and he didn't know what came over him. Later I told him I was going home and he begged me to stay the night, but I left anyway. He told me that when I called him a son of a ***** it brought back memories of how his mother was a *****, and use to get drunk beat the crap out of him and his two younger siblings. I know what he did was wrong and painful, however I really love him.
Should I leave him even after what he told me?

Answer 1

I was going to answer this question the first time that you put it up, but you awarded best answer before I could get home and do that. As bad as it sounds, I'd say that you provoked him when you started calling names. The fact that he spanked you, rather than slugged you, is really a point on his side. It could have been much worse. I think that you both need to sit down and talk about it and try to put it behind you.

Now, the fact that he chose to SPANK you, rather than lashing out in a worse way or dealing with it more constructively could be indicative of something more. He may have an interest in adult spanking, and took your behavior as a chance to put it in practice. When he realized how much he was hurting you, he stopped. It might be something you want to talk to him about, as well. Just ask him why spanking you popped into his head, rather than anything else.