How do I suggest going somewhere else? I don't know what we are doing dating..just hanging out..dont know?? This guy just moved here to San Antonio and doesnt really know where to go. how do i suggest doing something diff? Why am i always worried if a guy does not have enough money to do anything? its always in the back of my mind like i worry for them!!
2007-02-01 07:48:51 · 8 answers · asked by Ambitious27 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would suggest a different place especially if he is new in the area...and if he was comfortable with you then you should be able to discuss the financial part of the relationship...I mean shoot I would be up front and honest and ask him if he has enough to cover the date if not...Then I would help...Good Luck!
2007-02-01 07:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Here's some reality: he may not want to be SEEN with you. The fair part of you wants to think it's something honorable, or a deficiency (like money, or brains) that's at issue. The facts are that he might be 1) in another relationship, and that place is a "safe spot", 2) actually married or engaged and wanting a little sidecar action, or 3) there's something more deeply wrong (like he's a racist or couldn't bring you to his friends, family etc). These things are ALL worthy of thought, before you give a relative stranger the "benefit of the doubt". PS - this is why men are able to deceive women, countless times before women grow angry or bitter. Because men take advantage 99% of the time, and Optimism is something of a virtue that's easily used. (Your guy isn't in the 1%, believe me or you wouldn't be asking this question.)
2007-02-01 07:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean "how do I suggest? That's simple - you open your mouth and ask : "Hey! Have you ever been to -----?" If he's new to SA, he may really appreciate any suggestion. Go through your weekend papers and look for free attractions or cheapies. Most tourist spots are free and he may want to see them. Or suggest that you buy a couple of public transit passes and "do the city" like tourists. You may see parts of SA that you haven't seen in ages! Suggest that you pack a picnic lunch for your little adventure. Once he's been around SA more, and you are still enjoying each other;'s company, he will suggest an upgrade of venues when he's ready!! If, however, he still resorts to the one place, you might start thinking about whether or not he's married or with a girlfriend.......
2007-02-01 07:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
call him from the new place and invite over or meet him at the old place and then suggest a great new spot you know about, make a trip out of it or ask him what he likes to eat and suggest a place which caters to his taste. If he can't afford it, he'll let you know, don't worry...spice the man's life up a little...we like that!
2007-02-01 07:55:34 · answer #4 · answered by solomonfever 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could offer to show him around town. Even if you are young, touring can benefit by the bus. Don't push! Be patient to be sure he is harmless, compatible in serious subjects, not just small talk.
2007-02-01 07:53:23 · answer #5 · answered by desertflower 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just say "hey, do you know any good places around here to..... go bowling, catch a movie, see an art exhibit? " whatever sounds like fun to you.
2007-02-01 07:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kutekymmee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just say...Hey I thought maybe we could go here today instead.
2007-02-01 07:53:09 · answer #7 · answered by wbyrdie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-02-01 07:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by lol 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋