So confused...
I have been dating the same girl for 5.5 years and things have always been really good. We've been together since high school and I'm 24 now. In my youth, I often wished I was single and could live up that life for a while. About 1.5 years ago I cheated on her and I still am beating myself up over it today. I have done things in my past that I'm not proud of that wasn't exactly cheating but still I feel guilty about today. I have told about it all and I think most of it was immaturity and she has forgiven me for it all. Now it seems like I'm looking for reasons to not be in this relationship, although I LOVE her so much, she is the most amazing person, and I know she will make me happy forever if I marry her. We never fight and yet sometimes when I look at her, I honestly feel like I'm looking for a reason to be unhappy here.
Any guess why I might be feeling this way? I'm in dire need of help because I want to love her so bad but I sometimes can't.
HELP!
Thanks
2007-02-01 07:46:57 · 12 answers · asked by confuzed1919 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i believe that it is human nature to look for bad things instead of good ones. I have had this problem a many of times but not to a relationship this long..i think that if you know that she makes you happy and you have the thoughts of marring her then do so...you are probably just very guilty over the "bad" things that you've done and are looking for a reason to get away from her because you know that you hurt her....she forgave you and that's all that matters so be happy and let the past be forgiven
2007-02-01 07:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you're wondering what you've missed out on spending so long with just one person. You might love her, but you're missing having experiences from being single, and part of you wants to have those, so it's making you feel guilty and confused. If you honestly aren't comfortable in the relationship, then you need to talk to her and tell her you need a break from the serious, committed relationship (don't expect her to take it well). You could get out on your own and discover it's not what you thought it was, and want to go back to her and be ready to settle down. Or you could get out on your own and realize that it's what you needed to do for yourself to be happy. It can go either way. Just keep in mind that if you take a break from her to see other people and expand your circle, she's entirely free to do the same thing.
2007-02-01 15:56:28 · answer #2 · answered by Katasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a very difficult situation. If you still feel terrible for cheating on her, and you truly love her, and you just don't feel like you can be in this relationship then you need to tell her. But at the same time if you can see both of you being so happy as a married couple stay with her. But you need to talk to her. You need to sort out this situation with her instead of the internet. Good Luck.
2007-02-01 15:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by none 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I am so sorry that you are in the spot your are in. Love stinks sometimes is hard and heartbreaking. My advice is to talk to her......as hard as that will be......ask her how she feels about being together so long and if she ever wonders how it would be to be on her own. She might think about it too. I think everyone should experience being single and on their very own at least once in their life. If you really love each other.....in time you can be together again - if it was meant to be.
2007-02-01 15:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by nbqhr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you love her but arent IN love with her. Man you CHEATED on her. Thats unforgivable dude your heart is telling you no! Step away before you hurt her even worse. If you stay together and you dont love her then the only one who you are hurting is her. Talk to her and let her knoe your feelings. Its not as hard as most people think.
2007-02-01 15:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by babysunshine4114 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of times when there are no problems...we think that is a problem. You need to forgive yourself first or you will not be successful with her or anyone. Good luck
2007-02-01 15:54:57 · answer #6 · answered by angie baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not the one for you. Quit stringing her along and let her find someone who really does love her the way she deserves to be loved. You're being a jerk.
2007-02-01 15:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by Gretchen C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest with you I really think that you are scared of committment....you are scared to settle down with her...if she is such a good girl then you should not have any problems with settling down and if it is right then you will know it....
2007-02-01 15:52:55 · answer #8 · answered by Mye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its not there then it probably wont be. maybe she is more of your best friend type girl one that you love but not in a deep passionate way.
2007-02-01 15:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by cleo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just can't appreciate what they have until it's gone.
2007-02-01 15:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋