In a relationship, why do women feel the need to slowly suffocate the freedom & life out of men?

Question

Selfishness?

Answer 1

sounds like you shouldn't have gotten married.

Answer 2

William you dont seem to understand that men are simply something we use to amuse ourselves. We have the power and always will. Isnt it funny how we can supposedly "suffocate the freedom and life" out of a guy then bring him back to life in an instant with nothing more than an encouraging wink or touch.

Answer 3

First of all "most" women do not do that.. If you feel like your women is doing that, look in the Mirror and ask yourself this..Am I meeting her needs, does she feel insecure about where I go and what I do, because I have done something in the past to make her feel insecure, or untrusting. When Women marry and again I say "most" not all, if they are happy and felt Loved, they will become happy homemakers, wanting to make their home Lovely. They try try whatever it takes to make their man happy. Men however like the idea of being taken care of, and their sexual needs met, but also wanna do their thing, when and how they want to, and not consider the womans needs. A healthy relationship is about Both individuals, and it is selfish and unconsiderate if you are not thinking about hers also..

Answer 4

Their own insecurities. Lack of self esteem. They for get to have an outside life of their own. They truly begin to think that's what you want because you usually start out the relationship being together all the time and they are afraid of change. A false sense of you can't do without them. They center their world around the man instead of living in a world that could co exist with you both doing things you like to do separately, something that you both may not be interested in. I could go on but, then I would have to start and advice column and get paid for it.

Answer 5

No, you married her not realizing what marriage really means. That is what I'm talking about people without really knowing what marriage means, should never marry until they live together first like the saying goes, "Don't buy your shoes until you try them on first, they may not fit you". People take marriage to lightly it is a real tie down and letdown., all your freedom is gone , all the things you like to do by yourself is gone, everything is gone, all gone, except a divorce will be the only thing you can do anymore.

Answer 6

Wait a sec, who said he was married? This is the singles and dating section...

Sounds to me like you just need to get out of the relationship, William. Feeling as if you're slowly being suffocated is not a good thing. (Reminds me of my own ex-husband, in fact... *Shudder...*) It is absolutely not true that all women feel they have to "own" you; sounds like this lady may be about as insecure as the come...

On the other hand, if you continually find yourself dating women of this type, you need to ask yourself what it is that makes you so attracted to them. It takes two to make a relationship, you know, and you have to choose to date her- the same way she chose to date you.

Some guys actually appear to like a woman to be more dominant-maybe because it gives them a sense of security. You don't sound like this type- not consiously. But ask yourself if- deep inside of you- there isn't a little boy who likes to make women chase him around. Remember that self-knowledge is among the greatest (if not The greatest) forms of power we can have.

Answer 7

Why do men need to feel like they have to control women? Do things together a few times a week, for an idea, and she will want you to get away for awhile!

Answer 8

They don't set out to, things just change and it causes a need for a man to not have so much single freedom, but family time....

Answer 9

Oddly enough we don't "mean" to do it. It has been the norm since the caveman. Woman also feel as though man has many flaws as well. We try to better them and correct it but in the same time are "suffocating".

Answer 10

after many relationships, I have come to realize that the best relationship with a woman is one where you dont live with her. I am now happy with a woman who made me miserable when we lived together. We are both commited to each other, we dont date other people, but we both have room to breathe now, and she doesnt feel the need to strangle me. It works much better for us now.

Answer 11

You nailed it. But I don't use the term women (mature and responsible term) for the selfish behavior we associate with girls.