It said that shared custody simply makes the parents feel better but the kids feel terrible because there is mom's home and there is dad's home but no kids' home.
2007-02-01 07:38:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I'd not put to much thought into studies on child rearing. They change everyday, why? Because their is no fixed way of raising children. Just because someone is a PHD in no way means they can raise a morally sound child into adulthood. Most studies and polls done on child rearing these days are usually biased to the researchers agenda.
Just my opinion
2007-02-01 19:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a crock. The kids have two homes if their parents have brains. Here it is called joint custody. My kids see their dad whenever he or they want even though the decree says he sees them every other weekend and on wednesdays. They live with me and go to school in my district but he has just as much rights as I. I am not trying to control the kids or him. They have the choice of spending the whole summer and any holidays with him too. If the parents are mature and handle it correctly then the kids will feel that and not be emotionally screwed up because a marriage ended.
2007-02-01 17:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by CHERI S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went to my father everyother weekend and a month each summer. I have decent parents that were trying to raise me right, even if the stress from their bickering was hard at times. At least my Dad was in my life. I knew he wanted me and loved me. Even if it was crazy sometimes, I knew I was loved. Kids need their parents. All that crazy made me that much more determined to not do that to my own kids. Because of that, none of my siblings or I have divorced. Prolly never will. A bad divorce can show the kids just how important making a marriage work is. For me it helped.
2007-02-01 15:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went back and forth between my parents, and I say it's bad for kids because I used my parents against each other and vice versa, they both felt so guilty I got away with everything. I finally moved full time with my dad and things were much better, he did still have guilt, I got my own way quite a bit, but I did turn out O.K. I'm 30 married for 3 years this Aug. and have a 11 month old.
2007-02-01 15:52:22 · answer #4 · answered by jaamat6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tough for the kids but I think it is better for them to spend time with both parents. My parents shared custody but my mom didn't let me see my dad that much and I think spending more time with him would have been better for me now.
2007-02-01 15:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by JT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is true.
it's very confusing for children. They don't feel stable because they don't have an actual home. they have two that they are being bounced between.
the child if 12 needs to choose which parent to live with and which parent to spend weekends with.
I'm so glad my parents are together. If they hadn't been I'm sure I wouldn't have turned out as well as I have.
2007-02-01 15:43:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
it sounds very true. i know two kids who's parents have custody of them. they were both babies when they started living like that so i think they will be fine. they are accostomed to this living style
its the older kids who just started to live in this way that aren't good.
2007-02-01 15:46:23 · answer #7 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not only that but there are two different sets of rules and disciplinary actions. But, I am no expert and I don't have any children just an unbiased opinion.
2007-02-01 15:45:28 · answer #8 · answered by margarita 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋