My three year old daughter is very mouthy. She gets an attitude and tells me and her father she hates us and she throws things. She also constantly pushes down her sisters (1 and 2). What are some ways of getting her under control or what could be causing her to be so mean?
2007-02-01 07:32:28 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I dont believe in spanking. I put her in time out on the couch and I do take away her toys and take away cartoons but that doesnt work.
2007-02-01 07:38:00 · update #1
I think she needs some sort of discipline. I personally don't spank my son but I believe some children need it in extreme circumstances. I would try to give time outs or making her sit in her room. Most kids who act that way are just trying to get attention (negative attention). The best way to address this is to sit her down in a time out spot and ignore her. If she keeps getting up then keeping sitting her back down. It takes patience but you can do it!
2007-02-01 07:39:54 · answer #1 · answered by jkcowgirl919 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, my son is the same way and I started spanking him recently, he now fears me where as before he didn't. Like you, I didn't believe in spanking but some children need it and I finally gave in and tried it because I couldn't take it anymore, he was running my life!
Now if I just say I'm going to spank him he listens. SO I don't have to do it everyday or even 3-4 days at a time. Think about it, talk to people, do people tell you they hate their parents because they got spanked in the butt, no way. people resent their parents for abandoning them, not spending time with them when they were growing up, showing affection to them, being involved intheir school. You will still be a good parent, don't worry about feeling guilt about it, you'll get over it. The benefits outweigh the negatives.
My son doesn't even know the phrase "I hate you," where did your daughter learn that from, school?
2007-02-01 15:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps she is not getting enough attention! Having a 2 yr and a 1 yr old is hectic (all the diapers etc.), that maybe she is feeling left out!
If that is not the case, try ask her why she pushes her sisters around. As for throwing things, the same. If not a lack of attention then maybe a tap on her tushie might be needed! Good luck!
2007-02-01 15:40:19 · answer #3 · answered by Kennette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mouthy thing is normal. However...you do not need to hear your 3 year old tell you she hates you. This is something alittle bit of soap can cure!!! As for pushing her sisters down...you need to step in and take control of the situation...first by letting her know what she is doing is wrong...if that doesn't work...then a good swift kick in the seat might do the trick!!! Maybe take away the toys she loves until she decides to behave herself!!!!
2007-02-01 15:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by Lynnie M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Children usually repeat what they have heard. Have you or your children said anything like that around her? Or maybe she heard it on tv?
I know we all have to watch what we say around our kids. You have to come up with some kind of punishment for her when she says these things or acts this way. Be consistent and punish her in the same way every time. Maybe she's seeking attention? You should read some books on this subject. What's the Nanny's name oh, Joe Frost. She addresses alot of these types of problems.
2007-02-01 15:40:34 · answer #5 · answered by cinnycinda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to watch what she listens to(radio,t.v.)if you curse around her or argue around her that could be one thing too.now when she gets out of line you should give a time out right away.don't talk about it do it!!!have her sit alone in a corner for 5-10 minutes and have her think about what she did.when she pushes her sisters you need to tell her to say sorry right away because shell never learn that what shes doing is wrong.she may also be jealous of her sisters.she didn't get that much time to be the baby. take care of it now because you have two other babies right behind her who believe it or not will follow after her since shes the big sister.
2007-02-01 15:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by plus size diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you object to spanking her, then do something else drastic...make her sleep in the garage or lock her in the bathroom when she's bad( give her a sleeping bag). That isn't child cruelty so long as you feed her and make sure she has access to a restroom, and it will get the message across.
you could also take away her dessert.
if nothing works, I would take her to see a psychiatrist.
2007-02-01 15:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Grant G 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Punish her or spank her when she does bad. Lack of discipline causes children to act this way.
2007-02-01 15:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by lilmama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the SuperNanny book. She is great. The key is consistency!! You must do the SAME thing EVERY time!
2007-02-01 15:42:04 · answer #9 · answered by newmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be consistant
2007-02-01 16:23:08 · answer #10 · answered by whatelsewhatever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋