OK, so i am hanging out with this kid that likes me. i really like him too. my cousin introduced us, but then she sent him msg's saying that she needs someone to "satisfy her needs". she keeps trying to tell me hes a playa, but if she knew this, then y would she have wanted it to work out when she introduced us? i have a feeling she is jealous and doesnt want me to have a boyfriend, especially one that she likes. our parents found out we were fighting and she told her mom alot of stuff about him (he went to juvy, he dropped out of school, he drinks). the stuff is true, but i know he is a good person and i am willing to take a chance with him. the problem is now my mom and my aunt dont want me to see this kid at all. i was sneaking around to see him before, but i was talking to my mom about it and she was starting to give in to the idea of me hanging out with a boy. now, she is forbidding me to see him at all, and if i want to then im gunna have to lie and im afraid theyll find out.....
2007-02-01 07:31:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 17 and i really think that this kid is worth putting up a fight for.
2007-02-01 08:13:03 · update #1
Well I think this cousin of yours needs to back off because she introduced you then she should leave and let you 2 be happy; now your mother, I dont blame her that she says that you should say away because she might want the best 4 u and dont want you to end up a drinker or something else bad. If I was u I would listen to your mother, but if he changes and your mother sees that, then your met 2 be with him.
Hope things workout!
2007-02-01 07:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by vanessa_soccerlover 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not sure exactly how old you are but when I was around 15 or 16, I met a guy (a couple years older than me) who I thought I was "in love" with. He also had a bad rep so to speak. My mother forbid me to see him. I lied and continued to see him anyway. Yes, I got caught. One of the fights my mom and I got into, I actually caused my mother to faint! It was scary. Anyway, I still snuck around behind her back. The so called relationship didn't last long anyway. He ended up in jail (nothing to do with me or my family though. Just his own juevenile delinquency!). Guess what...yes, I visited him in jail too (also behind my mother's back). Well, I only did that a couple of times and I can't remember why I stopped (maybe getting a clue, lol?). Anyway, eventually he got out of jail and called me up. Guess what...that's right, like an idiot, I went to see him once again. I felt like I loved him and that he really was a good person inside, etc. Well, that was the last time we got together. My life had moved on. Now, I am married to a wonderful man and have 4 great children. I ran into an old, mutual aquaintance and found out that this old boyfriend that I risked so much for is now sitting in jail somewhere charged with attempted murder for beating the crap out of his wife/girlfriend!!! Go figure. I'm not saying this will happen in your case. Obviously this is a rather extreme case but my point is, sometimes parents do know best. Or, at the very least, is it worth the chance? You have so much more ahead, you really do! 20 years from now, you probably won't even remember his name, or at least you won't care to. Good luck. It's tough growing up sometimes. So many strong feelings.
2007-02-01 15:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by Super-Mom9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you dont want to disobey your parents then stop seeing the kid. He doesnt sound like a kid that you should be hanging with. Your cousin doesnt need to be talking to you like that in the first place, she was the one who hooked you guys up. And not to sound stereotypical but guys like that end up abusive and thats not something you should be getting yourself into hun. Your Aunt needs to tell her daughter that she shouldnt be seeing the kid either. I mean seriously what did he do that made him a juvy? Plus another thing he drinks....always a turn off.
2007-02-01 15:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by babysunshine4114 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have 2 different problems. #1: your cousin is causing drama, and you played right into it. #2: this guy is not even worth your time right now. he may really be a good person - fair enough. but until he straightens himself out and ACTS like a good person, he's not going to be any good as a boyfriend.
My vote: let your mom and aunt "win" this one... you look like the obedient daughter, you put a hard stop to your cousin's drama, and if this guy is "the one", when you walk away from him, it might just motivate him to step up and straigten up. and then keep your eyes and ears open around your cousin; don't let her suck you into her insecurity and mind games.
2007-02-01 15:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen my darling..
Sometimes, being willing to overlook someone's bad qualities in the name of love, is not heoric or poetic. It can be dangerous.
This entire situation sounds bad. I think you should take a break from the boyfreind for a little while and REALLY think about what you're doing with him; also, don't return your cousin's calls for a while.
You need some "me" time.
2007-02-01 15:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your making yourself go thru a lot of problems for this one guy. i suggest you reconsider your feelings for him and find someone new to crush cus you would be doing a lot of bad stuff just to hang out with him. think about it, do you really want to lose your parents trust over a guy? it can be really hard to get that trust back and then you'll have no one to blame but yourself.
2007-02-01 15:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that. there was this guy i really liked alot, and he liked me, my parents hated him. so we had to sneak around for awhile, i got away with it and if you do it right then you wont get caught. be careful and dont get caught, it was easy for me. he's not a playa, she just jealouse as you say, but go for it and dont worrie about it take time
2007-02-01 15:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Bewbies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your cousin...sux. If you try to see him on the sly chances are you'll be busted. So either be very very careful or just forget about it.
Is he worth catching crap for?
2007-02-01 15:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by HatingF8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, it isn't worth a lie to have a relationship Imagine what kind of deal will it be if you have to lie about everything? Will it be worth it? will you be able to lie to all your family and friends????? do not do it.
2007-02-01 15:36:53 · answer #9 · answered by J.M.C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are so young, listen to your mother. It may get you into more trouble then it's worth.
2007-02-01 15:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋