My boyfriend isnt ready for a family yet like most guys arnt and I really wanna have a baby.. Were both 23 years old and finacially stable and all I can think of is how much I wanna be a mummy.. is that bad..? I find myself wanting to cry every once in a while for I feel like that something is missing.. Like the one little boy I do have is my nephew his mum and dad consider him mine for he is like me in everyway and because he spent his first two weeks of life with me due to his mum was soo ill shes ok now thou... So hes got that special bond with me and leaving to go home just made all of what I have been through with him just sadder and making me wanna have that for my own.. I love my nephew so much hee hee.. my mum says I dont need to have a baby for they had my kid for me I just shake my head for I find everyone just jokes about it all with me when Im actually being serious... I dunno what do you think ??
2007-02-01 07:27:46 · 4 answers · asked by Princesskitten 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
we have talked about this a number of times.. if I was to become he says he would be ok with it for he would just adjust him self to it.. He just would rather us have our own home and what not first.. like we are very secure financially to be able to do so.. Hes a carpenter $20/hr and Im a stylist making $10hr plus commission.
2007-02-01 13:35:41 · update #1
it is not wrong to want to have a baby of your own. The bond between and mother and a baby is incredible. What you should do is have a serious talk with your boyfriend and explain to him how you are feeling. See what he says. It is important for you to understand where he is coming from and him understand where you are coming from. After you have a serious talk with him then at that point then you can make up your mind on what you should do.
2007-02-01 07:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by tweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can discuss how you feel with him and see what he says, if he says that he is not ready, just tell him that you really want it. If he still says no, tell him goodbye. Another thing you could do is get pregnant on purpose, then tell him, then he has no choice. If you are ready and he is not, wait another year or 2, I was 18 when I had my first, we were both not ready or planning, now I am 26 and I have 3 children, I would not change a thing. Just talk to him and tell him the way you really feel, I am sure there could be a compromise.
2007-02-01 15:34:58 · answer #2 · answered by fatiima 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
23 is very young. It seems as if neither of you is set in a career or ready to support a baby.
Yes, babies are fun and cute. Parenting is so much more than that.Take some time. Finish school and get set with your careers first.
2007-02-01 16:15:48 · answer #3 · answered by Cammie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i understand completely i already have one kid and i really want another but my husband wants to wait 2 more years and it so sad because i want one so bad but there is really nothing you can do to make him want one you just gotta wait till he ready
2007-02-01 15:33:36 · answer #4 · answered by kailey0819 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋